I am asked many questions regarding the scarf on my head.
Many people are just curious and that’s OK.
They apologise for asking questions and I tell them it’s fine. I would rather they ask me the questions directly than try to find the answers elsewhere.
So why do I choose to wear it? Because I want to. Not because my husband or my parents make me wear it or that the religion pushes me to. I choose to wear it. I was given a choice and I took it.
Many families and many cultures do things differently.
Girls are given the choice when they hit puberty to wear the hijab but my mum never asked me. She knew I would have told her ‘no’, like the rebellious teenager I was.
I was given the opportunity to wear it when I was engaged at 17 (a whole other story). My mother-in-law had asked me – and she had also asked her children as soon as they were of a mature age. She took a different approach with them. All her girls wore the hijab when given the choice.
I wear the hijab to cover myself from the gazing eyes of men. Some women might like men looking at their bosoms or their posterior and some women don’t. The women who don’t like it, cover up modestly. I cover up so that there is no chance of that happening. Unless a huge gust of wind comes and blows my hijab up.
The way we see it, is that my body is not for the gazing eyes of other men. My body is only for my husband. Don’t get me wrong, I do get men and women staring at me but not for any sexual reasons.
A lot of people will tell you different reasons why they choose to wear a hijab. Some will say it’s to please God, which is true, some will say something totally different.
No one should ever be forced to wear it. If they are then they are not wearing it for the right reasons. Some people will want their young children to wear the hijab and I see that as more of a cultural or traditional thing. I don’t. I have four young daughters. I will give them a choice if they want to wear it. If they say no, I won’t push it. But what I will do is teach my children how to dress modestly without the hijab.
I know I said this earlier but I have to emphasise on the fact that other cultures are different and other families in the same culture are different as well. Even though they follow the same religion they have their own way of doing things.
It’s a choice to wear it and it’s a choice to remove it too. I have thought about removing it but I think I would feel very naked if I was to take it off. I think about the opportunities I’ve missed because I wear the hijab and this makes me want to take it off. I have missed out on jobs because some people are scared of it. I am an educated woman with a diploma and experience but they couldn’t see past something I wore on my head.
Wearing the hijab isn’t any different than others wearing clothes. It’s a part of my wardrobe. I have different colours and styles and I can bling it up for weddings and special occasions.