To the stranger who felt compelled to tell me that my “son shouldn’t be playing with a doll, especially in public” I defended my daughter’s gender and told you to mind your own business then. But that wasn’t enough for me.
I also have this to say to you …
You approached me in a supermarket where I was ducking in to get the things I needed to make dinner for my family. I was minding my own business, laughing and playing with my child deciding what fruit we were going to buy and you interrupted me. You interrupted me and felt the need to give me some parenting advice that I simply did not ask for. If you were to tell me how beautiful my child was and what a great looking doll they were holding, then I would happily welcome your interruption but that wasn’t what you said.
You interrupted me to insult my child. She is not my son. She was wearing a black top and red pants and she is a girl. And as I write this, that isn’t the whole point.
If my daughter was a boy, which you rudely assumed. Why did you feel the need to tell me what she can or cannot play with? If she was wearing a pink outfit and brought a truck to the shops would you have said something then too?
Do you think I care what your opinion is and did you hope I would snatch that doll out of her hand and throw it away? Has the department stores confused you by sectioning off what the toy companies deem “boys” and “girls” toys?
Did you also know that a boy or girl can play with any toy they wish and wear any colour they want and did you know not a single person on this planet should ever be made to feel they must conform to what is considered normal by our broader society?
I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you have been made to believe that boys must wear blue and play with trucks and girls must wear princess dresses and play with dolls.
Were you also curious why I was even out of the house and not in the kitchen cooking for my family?
I would hope not. I think the world has come an extremely long way since the dawn of time and I’m comforted to know that you are just the minority.
So I ask of you this. Next time you see someone with their children in the shops laughing and enjoying their time together, remember that children are innocent. They don’t know or care what type of toy they are playing with. They only care that they simply have a toy to play with at all.
My daughter loves to see the wind move the leaves on the trees outside and gets so excited when she sees a bird from the window taking a dip in the bird bath. She races her monster trucks up the hallway and she carries her baby doll and stuffed animals around when she watches Toy Story and My Little Pony. She wears black and pink and blue and white and she is a happy and beautiful little girl.
Whatever she grows up to be and whatever she loves now and later I welcome because she is happy and that is all that matters to me!