“Um… Doesn’t that kind of take the spontaneity out of it?”
I generally get confused and incredulous looks when I make the suggestion I’ve just made.
“Well, yes, it does, but it seems that spontaneity doesn’t seem to be working anyhow.”
There are many reasons that couples lose intimacy in their relationship. One of the biggest contributing factors though, is that life just throws up other priorities and we tell ourselves “when the kids are older”, “when I’m not so tired”, “tomorrow night I will…”. Unfortunately, tomorrow often doesn’t happen.
Life is just so busy! If you’re anything like me, you have a ‘to do list’ and have planned your day almost to the minute to make sure you get everything in! It’s how I make sure all the important things happen.
Why should sex be any different? It’s important too.
Okay, so scheduling sex is a little unsexy. But so is not having it at all! Spontaneity is great – when it happens, but it doesn’t need to be the only time we have sex.
Scheduling sex says that your relationship is important; that you’re willing to make it a priority.
Scheduling sex gives you time to shave your legs and pamper yourself a little. Use it as an excuse to buy yourself something new and nice, to get a haircut, or take a long soak in the bath.
Scheduling sex encourages you to turn off the TV early, send the kids off to Gran’s or keep the morning after clear. It’s too easy to lose the night on social media or watch ‘just one more’ show on TV.
Scheduling sex allows you to take your time and enjoy it. Why not start by giving each other a massage first, or enjoying bottle of your favourite wine?
Make sex a priority; make sure it happens. Schedule it. Your relationship is worth it.