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‘I feared for my unborn child’s life’ -my hyperemesis gravidarum story

Hyperemesis gravidarum pregnancy“So every time a celebrity is pregnant and suffering Hyperemesis Gravidarum the media keeps calling it extreme morning sickness!

I want people to get their facts straight, it’s so much more serious than people realise!

For me, Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG) is physically being unable to eat and drink. It’s losing so much weight and having no energy to stand, shower or be a mother. HG is gagging and vomiting violently when trying to make your daughter a sandwich because the smell just sets you off.

HG is crying constantly because of extreme, unrelenting nausea 24/7 … your body is in starvation mode, everything hurts and you know people think you ‘just have bad morning sickness’ …

HG causes isolation, anxiety and depression along with the physical symptoms. HG is taking drugs used to treat nausea and vomiting in chemo patients and they don’t work … even at $10 a tablet!

HG is constantly feeling guilty and living in fear that your baby isn’t thriving because you haven’t eaten in weeks besides a tube giving you fluids.

HG is constantly downplayed and it’s really sad that there isn’t more recognition and understanding.

HG is being so dehydrated the doctors can’t find a vein to run your IV. HG is your husband telling you there will be no more babies because he can’t stand to see you so sick and in so much pain.


My hyperemesis gravidarum pregnancies

‘I wasn’t even told the name of the condition’

During my first pregnancy HG lasted from weeks 5-13 (then slowly improved until week 17 when all symptoms resolved). Barely any food or fluids from weeks 5-13, constant, severe and unrelenting nausea and vomiting. I lost 10 per cent of my body weight.

I was bedridden and extremely upset, I feared for my unborn child’s life. I was given Maxalon once in hospital and one packet of 10 ondansetron wafers around 8 weeks. No further advice, treatment or medication was given.

I wasn’t even told the name of the condition, I just saw the midwife write it down in my notes and I thought it was the proper medical term for morning sickness. I just suffered through in bed alone, thinking I was normal. I never thought it would happen that severely again.

I had a beautiful healthy daughter Ella weighing 3.1kgs and 49cms long. My husband was hesitant to have another child, I managed to convince him after three years.

‘I could not believe this was happening again’

The extreme, constant and unrelenting nausea and vomiting started when I was five weeks pregnant and it was much more severe than the first time. I could not believe this was happening again.

I had to quit my job. My first hospital admission was at six weeks, I was given IV fluids and Maxalon, which caused me to have an extreme anxiety attack and I was suicidal. I wanted to die, I was literally looking around my hospital room for something sharp, so I could open up my veins and end it all.

I’d already had HG once and couldn’t imagine living through it again, this time it was much more severe and I had a three-year-old to take of.

At seven weeks, I saw the head midwife of the local hospital and was diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum — she told me it was written in my file from my previous pregnancy. I was stunned at the lack of diagnosis and treatment with my first child.

I was then given basic information and also a prescription for anti-nausea tablets and instructions to go to the women’s clinic for IV fluids and IV medication when I needed them. This was a 30-minute drive and I could not even walk, so someone would have to drive me and take care of my daughter. It was just so horrible being in the car with all the motion.

The IV fluids were good though and I could eat a little afterwards. I lost so much weight (I was only 52kgs to begin with) that my ribs and pelvic bones jutted out rather than my belly, I felt like a skeleton. I didn’t start gaining weight back until I was five months pregnant.

In the first three months I was hospitalised about once or twice a fortnight then released after the IV had gone through. I was feeling better, but then went back home to my bed to repeat the pattern of not being able to eat or drink, constant retching, vomiting foam, bile, sometimes even blood, and crying all the time because the aches and pains from dehydration, starvation and sore stomach muscles was unrelenting and agonising. The worst time I was so dehydrated, I had excruciating, severe pain in my back and legs, a killer migraine and was seeing black spots in front of my eyes. I walked down the hallway to get my partner to help me and collapsed in a heap.

I had ketonuria which is when your body is in starvation mode and uses its own fat and muscle stores for energy. Lots of fluids and medication that day! The OBGYN listened to me while I broke down to her in tears because I was just so frustrated and upset, she held my hand and told me that it was horrible for her to watch and know that HG is the second most common reason for hospital admission during pregnancy, behind preterm labour.

So why had nobody heard about it?

Because they are not taught. My friend is in her final year of studying midwifery and HG is only covered in two paragraphs of text in three years of study. Yet it is the second leading cause of hospital admissions for pregnant women — I don’t get it!

I hated asking for help, I know now that I should have asked for much more. I had to get my mum to look after me and my daughter while my husband worked. I could not sit up and play with my little girl, I barely got out of bed most days and I missed out on so much time with her. I still suffer extreme guilt about this.

At 13 weeks I started to eat potatoes, bread and sliced cheese, I was still on the wafers (they’re $10 per wafer, 3 a day…it adds up quickly!) but finally managed to keep something down. The nausea never left though, I would still vomit several times a day and brushing my teeth was a nightmare.

I spoke to the mental health midwife weekly throughout my pregnancy but I never let on how isolated and sad I was. I just could not let anyone know my true feelings because I thought I should be grateful to be blessed enough to carry a child. I truly wish I had reached out for more help, I probably would have saved myself a lot of heartache.

At the same time, the medical system barely knew a thing about it and I’ve since done my own research and found there are many other treatment options that could have been offered to me. So I feel incredibly let down by them.

At 38 weeks my beautiful daughter Ruby came into the world at 2.9kgs and 46cms long, totally healthy. I have no idea how she survived, she amazes me to this day.

She is now almost two now and I still suffer occasional nausea, vomiting and abdominal pain and despite a few trips to hospital, a heap of tests and countless trips to my GP, they still do not know what causes it.

In my HG support group there are many other survivors with similar health issues after going through HG, I’m certain that it is connected, some kind of after-effect. I still see a psychologist to help me deal with what I went through, the feelings of guilt and isolation have never left me and I suffer from depression and anxiety.

Before hyperemesis gravidarum I was bubbly, energetic, social and always positive. I just want to be that person again.”

– a big thanks to Ella and Ruby’s mum for sharing her story. All the best xx

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  1. Everything you have said is100%true! I suffered from HG for both of my pregnancies. The physical and psychological trauma is true and unfortunately the reason why I couldn’t go back for a third! I too was sick with nausea and vomiting 24/7. I spent my son’s 2nd birthday in hospital on a drip because I was so dehydrated. I could not keep anything down. I would describe it to people as like having a gastro bug except it lasts for months! I also could not stand smells. I had to buy all new non perfume soap and shampoo. Just having a shower was a mammoth physical effort. My worst experience was smelling the neighbours freshly cut lawn which sent me straight to the bathroom. Weird but tree! I also had to give up work. It was so totally different to what I had imagined pregnancy to be!

  2. Oh i know exactly how this lady feels because every word describes my own pregnancies. My HG started at 8 weeks in my first pregnancy and only subsidized after i gave birth..38 weeks of hell..but Zofran helped a bit then..but i also had to quit my job because i couldnt stand up without getting dizzy, couldnt drive, couldnt keep any food or fluids down. I even vomited my own saliva..and after 3 years and lots of fear dreading my next pregnancy would be the same, here i am 16 weeks pregnant suffering an even worse case of HG since week 4!! Had to stop working, send my son to childcare most of the week so he doesnt see how miserable i am.. my husba d drops him, goes to work, picks him up, and literally does everything.. snd during the day i take my zofran wafers before i get up, take my vitD pills as my level is “9”, pregnancy vitamins, with some crackers which i still throw up afterwards..and all those damn black thoughts haunt me again.. i make sure i look at my family portrait and try to be strong but it’s hard and the days are long and the vomiting is giving me constant stomach pain.. i vomit my stomch juice in the morning, all food and then blood, nurses struggle to put IV in my hands coz i dont have any good veins fue to dehydration. I even use eye drops coz my eyes are dry. I’ve been hiding at home for 3 months now and it’s a horrible feeling for aomeone who is known to love life and have many friends who try to help but i cant wven take their phone calls now coz i dont really have the energy to talk.. i just hope the baby is ok and is not affected by this wicked illness that i have.. sorry for the very long comment but sharing my pain with people who can relate is all i can do now..

    • Thanks for finding the strength to reply. Hopefully you’ve found this helpful in a small way – just knowing that you aren’t alone. Hopefully others reading your comment will be helped by this also. No one should have to endure this 🙁 All the best. Soon you’ll be holding your beautiful baby in your arms. Take care xx

    • Samar, I am in awe of what you have gone through and are currently going through again… Speaking from a man’s point of view, I’m somewhat concerned about what my wife is going to go through herself (first pregnancy via ICSI), and I would have some concerns as to what I would do or would need to do if HG would happen to occur with my DW.

      Thank you for sharing your experiences, I will definitely bear it in mind and keep watch for any possible signs…

      ~ Wally



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