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    Default Rude & annoying things people say

    Some people have no filter when it comes to pregnancy and babies!
    What’s the most annoying or rude comment someone has said to you?

    When I was pregnant with my first, a lady from my workplace asked me how many weeks I was so I told her to which she said “oh my daughter would of been that number of weeks but she miscarried”

    Then the latest comments when we announced our third pregnancy: “was it planned?” And “I hope it’s a boy” (we are having a girl) “never mind you’ll just have to try for a 4th to get a boy” 🤬
    As if there is something WRONG with having all girls. I am seething but I’m sure other couples have experienced this.
    I’m sure I’ll get more to come when we tell more people. 🙄

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    Quote Originally Posted by Munchkin8 View Post
    When I was pregnant with my first, a lady from my workplace asked me how many weeks I was so I told her to which she said “oh my daughter would of been that number of weeks but she miscarried”
    That's not rude. She could have had a moment of sadness with the realisation that her daughter would have also been at that stage, but sadly won't be.

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    I'm terrified of saying anything to pregnant ladies because of how sensitive they can be...

    A few years ago I asked someone if they were due soon, as I had a vague memory they had told me they were due in September and it was September...they ended up telling me very angrily that they still had 2 months to go (turns out it was November not September) and I should keep my comments to myself before they stormed out of the elevator...🥺

    I explained the misunderstanding to them a few years later when we became friends but this interaction still haunts me to this day.

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    We shared our news of our third pregnancy with my 2 brothers and my husbands sister over the weekend. This is a natural pregnancy after a 4 year very long battle with IVF for DD2. We presumed they would understand our joy after such a hard time last time. The response from my youngest brother though was “You must be mental going for a third”. This really upset me, he can be pretty opinionated tbh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissTwiggley View Post
    That's not rude. She could have had a moment of sadness with the realisation that her daughter would have also been at that stage, but sadly won't be.
    agreed.

    i find very few people are genuinely rude. intentional rudeness implies a want to hurt, upset or distress a person. OP do you believe your work colleague honestly wanted to cause you upset? i’m going to hazard a guess and say no. maybe the comment was deeply personal to them and came off as off-the-cuff to you. maybe you’re feeling worried about the pregnancy/baby, and any mentions of a pregnancy ending are deeply upsetting to you. the point is, neither of you is right/wrong. the comment was meaningful to the work colleague and your feelings are also valid. as with most things in life, this sounds like a case of miscommunication. she said one thing, you heard another thing.

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    Where do I start?!?

    My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I got them all: oh well it wasn't a baby....you can stop being all depressed now: go see someone.... It's been a week. You should be over it....

    My next pregnancy, my MIL ripped my top up and made comments about my belly and lack of stretch marks. Her partner and his creep/sleeze mate were there! Don't breastfeed, don't have a csection.

    My 2nd baby: oh 2 boys you'll have to try again. Was it planned? Wow you're so huge. Oh you're breastfeeding? Omg, he's too old for breastfeeding now. When will you stop? Breasts were invented for the dads, not the babies. Co sleeping? Ew!

    My 3rd: was it planned? I bet you want a little girl! Oh...3rd boy. Wow, you must be disappointed. There's always round 4. Are you done? Like, do you think you will have another??? Oh you're one of *those* mums. Don't you think 3 is enough?

    And more recently with ds3 and his behaviour issues: "you should bite him. That's how my parents stopped my sister, dad bit her back"-30 years ago. This person has no kids. "I don't see it"- after telling an extended family member the specialists suspect ADHD/ASD ... this person had seen him for 3 hours one weekend... and is not in a field to do with children, medical or disability so really no grounds to say anything!
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    When I was pregnant with my first, I had a colleague who I wasn’t friends with, she was just a colleague who I would say hello to in passing in the office. Once I started to show, she would frequently and loudly exclaim “look how big you’re getting!” “Are you sure it isn’t twins?” I truly believe she wasn’t being mean and was only referencing my growing belly but it was soooo uncomfortable, just stop commenting on my appearance please

    I also had another colleague tell me that I was too young to be having a baby. I was 23 and had ticked all of societies pre-requisites to have a baby (I say that tongue in cheek of course!), I was married, had bought a house, finished my degree, had a stable job, been with my husband for 7-8 years, etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JR03 View Post
    When I was pregnant with my first, I had a colleague who I wasn’t friends with, she was just a colleague who I would say hello to in passing in the office. Once I started to show, she would frequently and loudly exclaim “look how big you’re getting!” “Are you sure it isn’t twins?” I truly believe she wasn’t being mean and was only referencing my growing belly but it was soooo uncomfortable, just stop commenting on my appearance please
    I had a male colleague tell me I looked like I was about to pop when I was pregnant with dd2, nowhere near popping.

    I looked at his stomach and told him that he did too.

    He still does.

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    With DD when we announced our pregnancy to DHs family, MIL exclaimed that “we’re all having a baby”. Ah no lady, you’ve had your turn at babies, this is OUR baby, not yours.

    With DS I was chatting to a colleague at work I don’t know that well. She asked how far along I was and when I told her she said “I hope you’ve got your caesarean booked in, there’s no way you’ll push that baby out if you’re this big already!” I can’t remember how far along I was but maybe 24-28weeks?

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    Not a pregnancy issue, last week I was went to Bunnings, and spoke to one of my old work buddies for a bit, she didn't have a mask on, a guy walked past and launched into a tirade over the fact she didn't have a mask on.
    She has Cystic Fibrosis. A clear medical exclusion, but he wasn't done after learning that fact, he then launched into all the reasons why she should still wear one.

    Some people seriously just need to keep their mouths shut.


 

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