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    Quote Originally Posted by amiracle4me View Post
    Oh gosh.. your good! My DD has been setting the table every night for about a year but I’m keen to get her to help me clear it once she turns 6. She doesn’t do anything else as religiously tho. She’s a tall kid so I think I forget how small she really is at times. It’s only when I see her tiny Kindy peers that I realise It’s still a fine line between making them responsible and expecting too much.. gah. So hard all this stuff!
    I read the Barefoot Investor Family thing on pocket money at the same time I was reading "50 risks to take with your kids" and kind of combined some of the ideas. Letting them do some basic tasks, no matter how badly done, and then rewarding the work with pocket money.
    My DD is also tall (she's in size 7 clothes) so often also has expectations on her to be more mature than she is. I try to always remind myself she's only just turned 5.

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    I really like Sarah Ockwell-Smith’s article on pocket money. She says it shouldn’t be linked to chores because then kids will only do things for rewards and if you ask them to do something they’ll be like “how much will you give me if I do it?”

    Oversimplification but that’s the gist. She doesn’t tie to to behaviour either, pocket money is unconditional. Have a Google, I don’t think I’m allowed to put the link on here.

    My oldest is 3 but I think I’ll start pocket money at 4. I think starting early makes them learn the value of money early. Not to say yours can’t learn now OP, I guess it might just take a bit more perseverance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hetty View Post
    I really like Sarah Ockwell-Smith’s article on pocket money. She says it shouldn’t be linked to chores because then kids will only do things for rewards and if you ask them to do something they’ll be like “how much will you give me if I do it?”

    Oversimplification but that’s the gist. She doesn’t tie to to behaviour either, pocket money is unconditional. Have a Google, I don’t think I’m allowed to put the link on here.

    My oldest is 3 but I think I’ll start pocket money at 4. I think starting early makes them learn the value of money early. Not to say yours can’t learn now OP, I guess it might just take a bit more perseverance.
    I've been thinking on this- I wonder if by not paying the kids for doing house jobs, or excluding them from the pocket money, then we're also not placing any value on house jobs, and therefore saying that house based work is essentially of little to no value?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SJ565 View Post
    I've been thinking on this- I wonder if by not paying the kids for doing house jobs, or excluding them from the pocket money, then we're also not placing any value on house jobs, and therefore saying that house based work is essentially of little to no value?
    to me, it’s just teaching them that those are the responsibilities of daily life. that some things have to get done with little to no reward, or the reward is the result of the chore (ie washing up after dinner means a clean kitchen, packing our toys away means more room to play with something else).

    i mean you could sell it different ways, i guess it’s what resonates with you as a family.

    i definitely like the idea of having ds tick of 3 chores per week, but for us it’s more about everyone contributing their energy and time and working together as a team. i’m not opposed to giving him pocket money too, but i’m not sure we will link it to the completion of the tasks.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hetty View Post
    I really like Sarah Ockwell-Smith’s article on pocket money. She says it shouldn’t be linked to chores because then kids will only do things for rewards and if you ask them to do something they’ll be like “how much will you give me if I do it?”

    Oversimplification but that’s the gist. She doesn’t tie to to behaviour either, pocket money is unconditional. Have a Google, I don’t think I’m allowed to put the link on here.

    My oldest is 3 but I think I’ll start pocket money at 4. I think starting early makes them learn the value of money early. Not to say yours can’t learn now OP, I guess it might just take a bit more perseverance.
    Thank you. We have set up a spriggy account for both our older 2. For the eldest, we have run with, for our 10yo, "we will give you $5/ week, but you can also earn more." Cleaning his room, bringing bins in after bin day, setting the table (once or twice) also = $5 combined. Unpaid we have some small tasks too, check the dogs water, put his dirty clothes in the laundry etc.

    My parents have offered him $3 if he walks their dog (he's 13, so it's only a short stroll, easy money. He's only 2.6kg and well behaved) but if he does 3 in a week he'll get a "bonus" taking it from $9 to $10.

    I don't want anything to be unobtainable. I want him to achieve, but not be punished. But I also want to encourage a good work ethic at the same time. The potential for some good cash is there. Nothing is hard. So far he's earnt $10. I've set him a savings goal, and have said he needs to put *something* towards it each week.

    Much the same for ds2, but less chores and less money


 

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