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    Did anyone find their kid’s School Psychologist useful? My son has anxiety (he’s 6) and sensory issues. He’s had neurosurgery, stays in hospital and lots of scans under anaesthetic so has been this way since his surgery. After 4 years of his behaviour, hyperactivity and aggression towards his siblings and Dad I’m not sure how much more I can take. There is no support. I’ve been a single parent for 6 months now, I couldn’t get funding, was just told it’s probable ADHD, his neurosurgeon doesn’t give a **** about the behavioural side of it and I can tell people just like to blame the Mum for any kid’s behaviour without knowing the full story! I’m sick of it all. I definitely think it was the surgery that caused his change in behaviour because it was a dramatic change and I’ve read other stories where kids have turned since their neurosurgery. My son’s school agreed I should get an autism assessment done, which I’m in the process of doing. I don’t think he has autism but I’ve felt something isn’t quite right for ages now. Oh, he has an SSO helping him at School too. Apart from very close friends and my son’s School I don’t have a lot of support, just criticism and it’s wearing me down. Thanks

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    While we dont have a school pysch. My kids do see a pysch fortnightly. They help a lot.
    I have 6 kids 5 with special needs. My older kids didn't see a pysch until they were well into their teens. As the old health system here did make them available until they were over 12 and even then on a limited bases. They did and do help them.
    My younger too had early diagnosis and got to see pysch's under the ndis from day of diagnosis. It makes not only their life easier but mine too. They work with the child and as well the parent. They ways to help when they are starting behaviour that needs help to stop or curb so it so hard on them.
    Happy answer any questions you have.

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    It is quite difficult in Vic government schools to see a psych for general appointments (they tend to mainly do assessments and provide resources). Larger schools may have a counsellor/wellbeing officer, however they are not even close to having the qualifications of a psych. So while we've had the support of the school district psych (and assessments by the district speech pathologist), we're needing to find a private psych for DSDS7 to see longer term. The district psych who I have dealt with for DS I'd also worked with before as I used to teach in the district she used to work in, and she is lovely and seems to really know her stuff.

    Do you see a developmental paediatrician? We have started seeing one this year, and while he is so expensive, he absolutely seems worth it. The appointments have gone way over time with no extra charge as well, he just wants to be as thorough as possible. We had the initial consult (already had some psych assessment, ADHD and ASD screeners, plus speech and OT screener) then got even more assessments/teacher checklists etc done at his recommendation, then a follow up shorter appointment. He just seems to have a real skill of getting all the pieces and pulling them together to work out "what's next".

    He is part of the Neuro and Behavioural Paediatric Society of Australia - you may be able to contact them to see if there is a specialist in your area as it sounds like you would need someone who is quite specialised who can liaise with the neurosurgeon for extra information as well.

    Don't listen to any "parent's fault" blah blah. While you don't need to feel helpless, there are things that you can do to help the behaviour, you did not cause the behaviours and anyone who thinks such clearly hasn't lived their life with a child with additional needs.

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    I wonder if it's worth contacting your local university psychology clinics to see if they can help? It's low cost because you see a student psych but they are overseen by a clin psych

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    Thank you all for your input. I really need some help with him but unfortunately without a diagnosis I’m on my own to pay for everything, which I can’t afford. He is utterly exhausting for the last 4 years since his neurosurgery. It’s so frustrating because I know something is not quite right with him but I don’t think it’s enough for anybody to actually help me. It’s so sad that I dread school holidays because he is home and makes it hard to look after the other 2 young ones. Maybe it’s me who needs to get more physical and emotional energy to deal with him. Maybe I’m just a crap Mum. Although I patted myself on the back for managing to take all 3 kids to the pool on my own today! Thanks again for your input. I will see how his next few appointments go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Happymummy5 View Post
    Thank you all for your input. I really need some help with him but unfortunately without a diagnosis I’m on my own to pay for everything, which I can’t afford. He is utterly exhausting for the last 4 years since his neurosurgery. It’s so frustrating because I know something is not quite right with him but I don’t think it’s enough for anybody to actually help me. It’s so sad that I dread school holidays because he is home and makes it hard to look after the other 2 young ones. Maybe it’s me who needs to get more physical and emotional energy to deal with him. Maybe I’m just a crap Mum. Although I patted myself on the back for managing to take all 3 kids to the pool on my own today! Thanks again for your input. I will see how his next few appointments go.
    You can access a lot of support including a regular psychologist through ndis early intervention (have to be under 8) withOut a diagnosis.
    Support includes things like regular
    Psychologist
    Speech threapist
    OT
    Pyhiso
    Food threapist
    Exercise physiotherapy
    And heap more different therapies
    Support worker
    Art therapy
    Equine therapy
    Drama therapy
    Etc...
    Than there is the physical stuff like
    Night time nappies
    Chew toys
    Exercise equipment
    Sensory equipment
    Seamless clothing
    Pressure clothing etc..
    Anything that they might need that a 'normal' child wouldn't.
    This year that includes a laptop or pad for telehealth appointments.

    I am to chat with you about the process of getting help before you get a diagnosis. I got it for ds3.

    Also ask around your area for extra help. Some charites like the endeavour foundation will pay for a pead to get a diagnosis. Somevpead will only charge you the medicare rebate if they know you are struggling.

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    Thank you. I rang them today but when they did the assessment over the phone they said there wasn’t much evidence that he needs help in the development area. They will ring back tomorrow and ask some more questions regarding his brain cyst and it’s effects now and in the future. This has always been the problem. He needs help and so do I so I can parent him according to his needs but he never qualifies for anything. Apparently he’s never bad enough. So frustrating! He’s disrupting the whole household and most days it’s very depressing. Whether it’s just behavioural or he gets a diagnosis, I don’t know what to do anymore. Thanks for your advice.

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    My biggest advice if talking to NDIA(NDIS) or filling in forms, checklists etc for school funding is to answer the questions thinking of him on his worst day. I know it goes against every instinct - we always want to see the best in people - but it's the best way to increase your chances of getting funding.

    I've had to do forms etc as a teacher and I feel like I'm being horrible, saying this child can hardly every do this or usually refuses to do that. But funding is for the need and you're not asking for any thing for your other children, just the one who needs that higher level of support.

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    You should be able to at least get a mental health plan from your gp and get a discount for some sessions with a psychologist.


 

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