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    It would annoy me a bit due to the confusion it’s causing.

    Once my mum called me on the phone and left me a teary message to say “dad’s in the hospital”. Naturally I thought she meant my dad, not hers, and I was pretty annoyed when I found out it was actually my pop (and it wasn’t a dire medical situation to begin with).

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    Default Dh refers to his mum as mum not Nana to the kids.

    I guess if your DH says “he doesn’t mean to” means he’s not intentionally saying it to annoy you, but if you’ve repeatedly asked him not to, then I can see why you’d be miffed especially the times your MIL is actually staying in the house.

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    I’d be a little annoyed too but I also don’t think it’s a huge deal as your kids should be old enough to understand that he means his mum.

    My MIL calls herself mumma to my kids. Drives me nuts and I don’t think that’s ok. I pull her up on it all the time who knows what she does when I’m not around!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mummamania View Post
    In the VERY LEAST he should be saying to the kids MY mum was calling you." But more appropriate would definitely be "Nana was calling you" very strange. Is he just doing it to irritate you?
    No not doing it to irritate me. That kind of feels worse. Like if it's subconscious, then why?

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    I don't think your over-reacting at all, I think it's totally weird!
    I mean, I get what the others are saying, that they're old enough to understand that she's his mum... but it sounds like he is acting like she is THEIR mum as well. I would find it very frustrating as well, whether he was doing it to purposely annoy you or not is beside the point. You're their mum. When he says "Mum is calling you" they should know he means you.

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    Some men regress to be a juvenile around their mothers, like they slip quickly back into a child role. Maybe having his mother living with you is messing with his head and he's seeing himself and your children as "the children" and his mother as "the mother". Not sure where that leaves you...

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    To be honest, I do this and I'm in no way a regressed woman-child l. It's just habit, since I'm referring to my mum. I interchange with 'grandma' all the time but yeah, there's nothing hidden to it

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    I think the “my” is a missing link which turns it on it’s head a bit. Have you asked him just to add in “my” or “your” so the kids have more clarity on which mum he’s meaning.

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    it’s plain f**king weird, sorry OP. would any of us refer to our own fathers as “dad” when talking to our kids? no. you’d say grandad/pop/whatever you call a grandad. he should, at very least, be saying MY mum, to distinguish between her and you (real mum). sure they’re old enough to know the difference, but it sets the tone for a weird dynamic. i’d be annoyed too. have you discussed it with him?


 

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