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    Default School-aged kids - birthday invitation etiquette?

    My DS is having his 9th birthday this year and I’ve booked him a party at Timezone.

    He is autistic, but is in a mainstream class at school and by all reports he is well-liked by his peers. To my knowledge, he doesn’t have any solid friendship groups though. At first he got upset that he couldn’t invite everyone in his grade, but I explained to him that kids parties with costs involved always have smaller numbers of guests.

    Anyway, I’ve told him he can invite 15 kids – I had to help him come up with the guest list. There about 45 kids in his grade at school, so only a 3rd of them will score an invite.

    My question is – what is the best way to distribute the invites without disappointing the non-invited kids? Or is this just one of life’s lessons that you can’t always be included in everything?

    Should I maybe ask his teacher to help me out with giving them quietly to the kids, or is this a bit much to ask considering they’ve got their hands full with teaching? I only have the phone number of 1 mum in his class, so I can't distribute them all by text message.

    I’m sure there have been parties since DS transitioned to mainstream that he has not been invited to, but I suspect he’s somewhat oblivious to this (as am I!).

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    At my DS’s school the teachers have always been happy enough to fife them out to the invited kids at the end of the day.

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    Default School-aged kids - birthday invitation etiquette?

    Do they have a communication bag? Maybe get the teacher to put in there. I’ve always just done pm on fb.
    Another thing I saw once was, have the invite written on plain lined paper and put them in their lockers ,but I guess these are Timezone invites

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kazza78 View Post
    Do they have a communication bag? Maybe get the teacher to put in there. I’ve always just done pm on fb.
    Another thing I saw once was, have the invite written on plain lined paper and put them in their lockers ,but I guess these are Timezone invites
    No communication bag.

    There are two classes in his grade and some of the invited kids are in the other class.

    When he returns to school next week he will be with the same teacher and class mates for the first week while they finalise the new classes. I might email his teacher and ask her to assist me. She adores DS and hopefully won’t mind me asking for some help.

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    Default School-aged kids - birthday invitation etiquette?

    I give the invites to the teacher discreetly in the morning, last year for my DS birthday she asked the invited kids to stay back quickly at the start of lunch and handed them out for them to put in their bags.
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    Ask the teacher the best way to distribute them discreetly.
    They have always been more than happy to in my experience

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    I just gave them to my ds to hand out, didn’t even think about that really.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Degrassi View Post
    No communication bag.

    There are two classes in his grade and some of the invited kids are in the other class.

    When he returns to school next week he will be with the same teacher and class mates for the first week while they finalise the new classes. I might email his teacher and ask her to assist me. She adores DS and hopefully won’t mind me asking for some help.
    So late finalising the classes!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kazza78 View Post
    So late finalising the classes!
    I know right?!

    Because DS has additional needs, I was advised who his new teacher will be this year, but none of the other students/parents will know until the end of next week.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Degrassi View Post
    I know right?!

    Because DS has additional needs, I was advised who his new teacher will be this year, but none of the other students/parents will know until the end of next week.
    Wow , we find out the day before last day of term 4


 

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