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    Has he left her? Is he living with her?

    I’m not sure I could ever trust a man like the one you’ve described. Sounds like he’s trying to justify his actions by putting her down.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherryblossomgirl View Post
    This is what he shared with me. I know it sounded harsh. I don't think he meant any harm by what he said. He really is a lovely guy
    It's easy to be lovely at the start of a relationship when it's all wine and roses. I don't think you're doing anything wrong morally, but his attitude towards his former partner - a woman he once loved enough to marry - rings alarm bells. Life can throw all kinds of unexpected troubles your way over time - in their case it was an unwell parent, infertility.... Maybe you'll skip through life untouched, but if you don't, the way he talks about her now is a glimpse into what he's like when things don't go so well.

    Also, did a doctor tell them that her fertility was the issue, or is that just his assumption? Maybe he couldn't give her a baby 🙄

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    Yes, he has left her. We had become friends when he was still with her. She didn't know.and he had to hide me "well". But it's all good now. She's history to him.

    I do trust him.

    He said she always had problems with her periods. He did have a low sperm count at one stage but it improved. I am sure he is ok as far as fertility is concerned.

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    Default They say I am having an affair with a married man but he's separated!

    Quote Originally Posted by Cherryblossomgirl View Post
    Yes, he has left her. We had become friends when he was still with her. She didn't know.and he had to hide me "well". But it's all good now. She's history to him.

    I do trust him.

    He said she always had problems with her periods. He did have a low sperm count at one stage but it improved. I am sure he is ok as far as fertility is concerned.
    You met on a dating site and he was still with his wife. Of course he had to hide you.

    Alarm bells would be ringing for me. What’s to say he won’t get sick of you and meet other women on dating sites? I’d be very wary if I were you.

    Are you living together?

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    Can I ask how old you are? If you’re not racing the biological clock I would take things very slowly and not rush into marriage or children. Get to really know each other first.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cherryblossomgirl View Post
    Yes, he has left her. We had become friends when he was still with her. She didn't know.and he had to hide me "well". But it's all good now. She's history to him.

    I do trust him.

    He said she always had problems with her periods. He did have a low sperm count at one stage but it improved. I am sure he is ok as far as fertility is concerned.
    What’s to stop him befriending another woman when he decides you are too fat/too busy with your parents/ mentally ill.

    He was happy to marry her but decided she was no longer ok he could easy do the same to you. If he was willing to hide you from his wife he will happily do the same to you.

    You have no idea if he is the one with the fertility issues. Count is just one factor.

    I would be taking this very very slowly.

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    Default They say I am having an affair with a married man but he's separated!

    your “man” sounds like a d!ck. what kind of a selfish snowflake of a manchild resents his partner for caring for her terminally ill mother? she didn’t “cater to his needs”? what about her needs? did he cater to hers?

    sounds like a classic case of douchebag gone wrong. he’s stuck in the 50s living out some patriarchal fantasy and blowing through women when they stop “catering to his needs”. oh his former partner was never “fun”, gosh i wonder how much fun losing your dying parent must be. poor little tommy d!ckbag was off having a sook though, because his wife wasn’t up for a blow job and a trip to bali.

    f.cking please.

    the issue is not his partner, it’s him! i wonder how long it’ll be before he finds a new “dream girl” and you’re yesterday’s news.

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    I'm always cautious of someone who has nothing good to say about their former partner.

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    I take on board what you say and what other's say. I'm in my late 20's. (not in a hurry to start a family).
    Some of the posts have got me thinking about him now and maybe my future with him. I guess I need to stop putting him on pedestal.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJaq View Post
    I'm always cautious of someone who has nothing good to say about their former partner.
    That's what my mother said.

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