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    Hi Hubbers.

    I have a job where I specialise in providing assistance to highly intelligent, type a people with easy access to psychotropic drugs and drugs of addiction, who also happen to have mental health and/or substance abuse issues. Some of them have done terrible terrible things and some of them just have a lot of ‘things going on’.

    I’m an empathetic person which is why I’m good at what I do but the work is draining me. I love my job and I’m not happy in any other job that doesn’t involve this type of ‘real’ content, but I don’t know how to stop it from getting to me.

    I feel like it drains all the empathy I have and my kids aren’t getting that as much as my clients are.

    Does anyone else have a job like this? I need to find a way to put it all in a box at the end of a day and switch over to family mode. Any suggestions welcome.

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    Dont have much to suggest at all just that a friend of mine was a prison officer and he said when he arrived home, he’d wipe his feet on the mat to brush off his shift and not bring it into the home. Would be tough though!

    Can you listen to a podcast, music or e-book whilst driving home to help transition to home life?

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    no advice but that sounds intense. i’m intrigued about your job, are you able to tell us what you do or prefer not to?

    does your industry or workplace offer any kind of eap? or could you see a counselor or therapist through work, to help you debrief?

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    My husband has an incredibly stressful and sometimes draining role in mental health and disability.
    If he has had a bad day he goes straight into the shower as soon as he walks in the door.
    He might stay there for 20 - 30 minutes until he has wound down.
    Lifestyle wise he makes sure he does yoga weekly and gets enough exercise to help keep his mind clear.

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    My husband is good at switching off from traumatic stuff. I have asked his advice before as I’m useless at switching off and he just says he makes himself switch off. So not very helpful...

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    I struggle with similar at times and go to bed feeling huge amounts of guilt about the way I’ve spoken to Ds, or the lack of play time with him or healthy food prepared.
    Things that help me:
    Practicing mindfulness
    A tv show I can get absorbed in
    A book I can’t put down
    Chocolate
    Exercise
    Debriefing
    EAP
    Writing in a journal
    Keeping a pad and pen next to my bed (or phone) so that if I can’t wind down because I’m thinking of things I need to do at work, I write it down then I can relax knowing that I won’t forget.

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    hi sally1981, It is important that you can leave the stress of your work at work. Try to find a way to 'switch off' work as soon as you leave the office. It could possibly take an hour or two to totally unwind, so perhaps a gym workout, or a good walk on your way home. Music, or a craft, or even just doing a crossword could also help to clear the stress. marie.

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    I was going to suggest writing things down too. Before you leave work. That way you know you can just pick your thoughts right back up the next day and wipe your brain.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yogis Mumma View Post
    Dont have much to suggest at all just that a friend of mine was a prison officer and he said when he arrived home, he’d wipe his feet on the mat to brush off his shift and not bring it into the home. Would be tough though!

    Can you listen to a podcast, music or e-book whilst driving home to help transition to home life?
    I have less trauma to deal with at work, but my job is very hard to switch off from. I also find I need to make it a conscious thing. There's a town exactly half way between work and home, I allow myself to think about work until I get there. If I still have thoughts after that I 'flick' them off my shoulders to leave them in the hills near work ready to think about tomorrow (I know, sounds a bit hippy-dippy, but I've had to learn what works for me).

    Also, ensure counselling is adequate and trauma is being worked through not just pushed down. I know an ex ambo and two ex police all with PTSD, the police especially because of a workplace undercurrent culture to tough it out.


 

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