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    Default Is $100 ok to give to a relative for a Wedding Present.

    My nephew got married a few months ago and I was invited to the wedding. It was in another state and I was unable to attend.

    They didn't want any gifts but just money.
    I'm currently not working and receiving benefits and all I could afford was $100. I'm on my own and felt this was as best as I could do.

    I purchased a lovely card and sent them the money.

    My sister told me they had received the card.

    I never heard back from them personally. They didnt thank me so wondering if what I sent was insufficient.

    I'm thinking I should try and send some more money.
    They do have a mortgage and paying of a new home and just started work as school teachers.

    I'm thinking they must be struggling.

    Should I try and send some more money or just let it go?

    Thanks in advance.

    Or should I try and send a gift?

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    I think they are ungrateful and rude for not saying thankyou. I wouldn't send anything else. Even if you are struggling a person should be thankful for anything they are given.

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    Id be happy to recieve whatever gift was given to me. $100 is a lot of money i reckon. They may not have written back or spoken personally because of the amount if people who gave gifts. I didnt send thank yous or personally contact everyone, just said general thank you to all during the speeches at the wedding. I dont think you should have to send a gift if they asked for money and you contributed what you could. If they are working as teachers soon enough they will have a good income. If they were upset by the amount of money i just think thats really rude and they wouldnt deserve anymore. Most likely they apprieciated it and just havent had the time to thank you. You could call to see how they are going, say sorry you couldnt be there and ask if they recieved your card, might help you to not worry about it?

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    I think you are overthinking this. It’s likely they have not sent formal thank you cards or it’s an oversight. It’s unlikely to have anything to do with the monetary amount

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    My husband and I were already living together before we were married and had plenty of stuff. We had a wishing well at our wedding and included small envelopes with the invitations so people could gift whatever they could afford anonymously. Most gave somewhere between $50-$100, so I think your gift of $100 was perfectly reasonable.

    Like gorgeousgeorge, we expressed our gratitude at the wedding, and also on social media, rather than individually.

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    I personally hate wishing wells for this reason, people always feel guilty for not giving enough. $100 is perfectly fine and sounds like it was more than you could afford. They may have just not gotten back to everyone yet, don’t feel you need to send more.

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    I think the fact you still sent money and didn’t attend they should show some sort of gratitude. I wouldn’t be sending anymore money at all ! If they can’t thank you I personally think it’s pretty darned rude

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    Let it go. $100 is sufficient for a wedding gift.

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    $100 is perfectly fine!! It was so rude of them not to thank you.
    We were married last year and had a wishing well. People have between $50 and $600

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    I sent out my daughters birth announcement thank you cards (for the gifts she received when she was born) in the same envelope as the first birthday invite.

    In my opinion thank you cards are old fashioned and unnecessary. I can’t recall who has sent me one and who hasn’t. You have your gift, you’re reading too much into it by expecting something in return.

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