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    Sounds like you’re just not ready for change, you are worried of the unknown, maybe because things are/were good you are worried to shake that up. That’s how it comes across to me, that or you don’t really love her.

    Ask yourself if you can live without her in your heart? If the answer is no and you’re just afraid of the change. Maybe you just need to give it a chance. Or give her keys to your place and have her stay more than three days, slowly build it up so it’s not so overwhelming for you.

    Maybe just tell her you were scared incase things got complicated and you love her and was afraid of losing her because the way things are were good. I think you can still repair it if you explain it in a loving way like how I’ve written it, good luck

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    She has a key for my place, she can still come in any time she wants to.

    I went to her parents house today, she wasn't there but they told me not to come back, I asked them to pass on a message, I just said I miss her. They agreed to pass it on.

    Even if she did just come over I still don't know what I would say, I'm too scared to do anything that might have a consequence. I dont have any way of contacting her now unless she unblocks me, she still has some stuff here so she might come to get it

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    Oh @Mason98 I’m really sorry it’s turned out this way. You were being honest, which is all you need to be. If you’re having reservations, that means you’re not ready. Thinking of you and your DS.

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    I really feel for you!!
    It’s understandable that she was upset BUT ignoring you rather than having a discussion is not how to act in an adult relationship. You did the right thing in being honest...that’s such an important part of a relationship.

    I hope she does come around and you work things out - if not, believe it that you and your DS deserve better!

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    It's over.
    She came round this morning to get her things with her mum, she returned the key, she sat down with me for a minute to tell me she thinks its clear I don't want her, I told her I do but I just want things to stay the same for a while, she said she was sick of waiting and left.

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    I’m sorry to hear that @Mason98
    Hope you’re ok.

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    Everyone is different I guess, but for me personally, I know pretty quickly if I want to stay with someone or not. If I didn’t feel it at two years I don’t think I ever would.

    When I met DP we clicked very quickly. He has three kids and I’ve got two. He barely went home within a few weeks of meeting and officially moved in after 6 months. When you know you know I guess!

    You’re very young though and I can understand your reservations. If she’s not prepared to wait then maybe it’s not meant to be.

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    I think probably if I’d been with someone for 2 years and they weren’t willing to take the next step then I would relook at the relationship, yes it’s ok for you to say your not ready for her to move in, but it’s equally ok for her to say that if your not ready for the next step, she wants to move on with her life and maybe find someone who is willing to take that next step with her.

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    I’m really sorry Mason

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    I decided to take a few days off work.. I go back on Saturday.

    All this has taught me I don't think I'm mature enough to be in a relationship in the first place by the time I work give my son everything he needs and do everything else.
    This whole thing has blind sighted me I never expected anything like it to happen, but it has.

    I know she has the right to do whatever she likes but if it ended I never would have expected it to end the way it has.

    After all that I think I can do better for my son and myself if I am not in a relationship and just have a group of friends, I'm lucky to say my friends are really awesome.

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