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    Normally they ask for private health details before appointment/consult. Perhaps he has backed out but using that as an excuse?

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    Given he had two kids when you met him, did you have the talk about how many kids you wanted? If he’s just sprung this on you now after saying he would be fine with more then I think he’s completely in the wrong. If he said he only wanted one though then it’s justified.

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    I don’t think anyone is arguing that he can’t get a vasectomy, or that he may have very valid reasons to not want any more children. The problem is, he is making this decision unilaterally, without discussing it at all with his partner. I certainly wouldn’t go and get my tubes tied without a discussion with my husband. It’s about respect, and the fact that you are in a partnership and these decisions should be at least discussed, if not made together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hetty View Post
    Given he had two kids when you met him, did you have the talk about how many kids you wanted? If he’s just sprung this on you now after saying he would be fine with more then I think he’s completely in the wrong. If he said he only wanted one though then it’s justified.
    No we didn’t talk numbers, the only comment was that he didn’t want a whole lot (what’s a whole lot? ). So I’m hindsight, should have talked about how many, etc.

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    Default Husband getting vasectomy against my wishes

    I feel for you pinklise, as either way it’s a situation where inevitably someone is going to be resentful.

    When my DH had his vasectomy I wasn’t at the booking appointment, but I do know the Doctor strongly asked my dh if I was on board with it, so it’s obviously not a unique situation.

    The timing is very selfish imo, and I would be gutted to say the least if my dh couldn’t at least wait until our baby was no longer a vulnerable infant.

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