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    i was asked if i wanted to hold ds as soon as they brought him out and had checked him over. my bp was low and i was shaking and felt as though i’d drop him so dh held him. but yes i believe it’s possible, assuming circumstances permit. total not an unreasonable thing to want. i’d just ask if it’s possible as that’s your wish.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubbletrouble View Post
    My first was a c-section and they lifted bub over the curtain so I could see and touch her before they took her over to the side where DH got to cut a bit of cord they left for him. They wrapped her up because the theatre needs to be quite cool to deter bacteria from growing.

    DH held her to my chest (still wrapped) for the whole time I was being stitched up. He then got a good cuddle when they took us through to recovery. Once they had made sure I was fine bub was unwrapped and put on my chest with the blanket around her back. The midwife helped get her latched well and she had her first breastfeed while they were still monitoring me in recovery. About half an hour later I was wheeled back up to my room with DD1 in my arms.

    I absolutely agree with gorgeousgeorge. After experiencing the worst outcome with DD2 who passed away at birth while I was under general anaesthesia, my "nice to have" goal for DD3's birth is that I would like to be awake if possible. I very quickly let go of anything I defined as contributing to a good birth experience - none of it matters to me now. I'm just looking forward to hearing my baby cry and being told she's ok.
    This is so true, once you’ve experienced a loss nothing else matters. This time around we would like for DH to cut the cords but honestly we won’t be upset if this doesn’t happen.

    I’m sure this “nothing else matters” attitude would be hard for anyway who hasn’t experienced what you did or anyone with neonatal death/stillbirth for that matter.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mum-I-Am View Post
    This is so true, once you’ve experienced a loss nothing else matters. This time around we would like for DH to cut the cords but honestly we won’t be upset if this doesn’t happen.

    I’m sure this “nothing else matters” attitude would be hard for anyway who hasn’t experienced what you did or anyone with neonatal death/stillbirth for that matter.
    There's definitely a balance between keeping the perspective that a healthy baby is all that truly matters and wanting things that you feel are very important.

    I am honestly glad that for many people, being concerned about something like WHEN they will get to have skin to skin contact is one of their biggest concerns about birthing. I hate that my experience means that everything becomes an IF.

    OP - please don't feel that talk of losing a baby minimises your wishes, that is absolutely not my intention. If something is important for you to want to achieve at the birth of your baby, then it is important and definitely worth making known to your care team.

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    Only skin on skin after around 3 mins of dh cutting cord and cleaning him up etc. held him the whole time being stitched up

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