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    Default WDYT? Potential name conflict

    So with my last bubba girl a few years ago we were down to 2 names. We selected one and since she was our last thought nothing of it. Now we are having another baby unexpectedly and pretty much as soon as we found out we agreed to that name if it was a girl and a boy name.
    Through genetic testing and ultrasound we have confirmed it was a girl and immediately she became this name. We told the kids and they call her this every day but are leaving her name as a surprise to everyone else. We have had certain things ordered for her with this name as well.

    My potential issue is that my SIL, who lives interstate and we speak with very rarely, has met someone who has kids a few months ago and we have recently learnt that one of the kids name is very similar to the one we have picked. Like a couple of letters different. We spoke to them over Xmas and they referred to the girl by her nickname, which is also a name in itself so I didn't realise at the time how close it is. I've only just found out by a Facebook post memory of her birth with her whole name!!!

    Now we rarely see SIL (maybe once a year if that) so it's not like both girls will be in constant contact and it's a reasonably new relationship - i hate to think but may not last although they have moved in together quite quickly. I don't think I can change my little girls name because even though she is not here, it's just her name now and any other name is not going to sound right.

    I'm just asking others thoughts - if they would change the name of in our position. I have a feeling it is going to cause some contention and his SIL is not shy about telling how she feels but I don't think it will cause a family rift or anything. DH also worries but agrees that our baby is this name and doesn't want to change it either...

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    Name your daughter what you want. Who knows if your SIL will end up with this guy long term.

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    I wouldn’t be changing it, it sounds like the chances of both kids being in the same room at the same time is pretty slim so I don’t see an issue.
    We had picked out a girls name before we found out we were having a boy and both my cousin and a cousin of my DH had daughters with that same name (both spelt very differently though) and we decided we would still use it as our families aren’t close and the kids most likely wouldn’t have anything to do with each other. If you love it and are set on it then go with it.

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    I would use the name

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    I would use it

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    I would use the name and it doesn’t matter which way I look at this I just can’t get my head around what the issue is. I think that you have over thought this one! Don’t stress and enjoy her name!!!!!

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    Use the name! If they get cranky then explain you’ve had it picked out already for ‘X’ number of years and you love it and can’t imagine her an anything else!

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    I would still use the name.
    You barely see your sil and who knows how long there relationship will last

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    I would totally use it.

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    I wouldn't change it at all! You've had it picked and have grown attached to the name and attached the name to the baby so I definitely wouldn't give that up for a SIL you barely see and who might not even be with this guy long term. Plenty of extended families have children with the same or similar names and there's no issues so if she did ever say anything I'd just tell her you've had that name picked for a girl for a long time and leave it at that

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