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    nah i agree with you LAB, it would leave a nasty taste in my mouth too. i think what’s bothering you is the fact she’s monetizing your generosity. where you’ve given things freely and kindly to try and make her life easier, she’s essentially taking the stuff but then sort of snubbing your good intentions by selling the stuff to make a buck. it would rub me up the wrong way too.

    in fact dh’s sil is the exact same. gets gifts/asks for stuff then you stalk her fb/local bss sites and see it on there, at basically RRP. she’s a greedy selfish pig who just wants people to give her stuff so she can flog it. none of her stuff really goes due to the high price which gives me a pleasant sense of schadenfreude

    but yeah, i’d be the same as you. wouldn’t sit right with me for the aforementioned reason.

    honestly i’d just stop giving her stuff. doesn’t sound like she’s really interested in having things for bub, more just making money. maybe that’s harsh but it’s how i’d feel.

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    Yep, I agree with TC. Spot on!

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    I couldn’t do that myself (selling gifts) because similar to what TC said, it’s making a profit from your kind heart/generosity and I would be miffed for sure and can’t blame you for feeling the same.

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    It’s funny isn’t it. As a pp mentioned, rationally I agree they can do whatever they like with gifts. But it’s the blatant profiteering that I find on the nose.
    It was a gift, it cost her nothing. Give it away, or put a minimal amount on it.
    The clothing I bought was 3-4 outfits - fox and finch, bebe, those brands. Good quality stuff. I got them on sale so I didn’t pay full price. But then to see them online for basically the same price just annoyed me.
    And the swing annoyed me because it was misrepresented. Of course that has nothing to do with me, but it was a hand me down, pay it forward.
    I think it’s just different values at play.
    I don’t want to be too identifying so I won’t be too specific but the same girl was given a big ticket baby item by her dad. Something that would have cost somewhere between $300-$400. She was given another item similar by grandparents. So she put the one from her dad on buy/swap/sell. Her dad saw it and hit the roof. And she couldn’t understand why. His position was that she asked for specific item (brand, model etc) and that’s what she got, and then sold it. He had given her the receipt, she could have returned it for credit to the shop it came from. But she turned it into cash.
    I guess there’s always the argument that if she needs the cash more then she’s still getting benefit from it. But it just felt weird to me.
    No more gifts from me though!

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    Agree with TC. Seems off to me.

    I loaned a friend a heap of baby stuff (cot, bottles, play mat, baby swing). We had a disagreement after that. Still in same friendship group so will always be civil. She contacted me to ask what I wanted done with it. She lives 2 hours away, so agreed to donate most stuff but swing I said I wanted to sell. She said she would sell it, and listed it on eBay but forgot put a minimum on it. She messaged me to say it sold for 50 cents and to let me know if I wanted it. I thought that was pretty low. If that had been me I would have paid the person a fair price and not expected them to wear my stuff up. I assume it was payback for the fall out. I never bothered to reply.

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    My sister is one of these people. You send the kids something and a week later it’s for sale. I’ve stopped sending gifts. Wouldn’t mind so much if I got feedback as to what was wrong with the present to begin with so I could get something more appropriate next time.

    Personally I can’t bring myself to sell gifts. I may pass them to someone else if they’re not my taste, but never profit from them. Even DSS’s clothes I pass on for free to someone else who may get some use from them.

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    Default WDYT? Selling baby gifts

    yeah i have never sold gifts. mostly because i’m lazy and it’s not worth facking about on BSS sites for the equivalent cost of a coffee. but also because i know there are those in need of this stuff and if i’ve had my use of something then why not pay it forward and let another mum and bub get use out of it to?
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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    yeah i have never sold gifts. mostly because i’m lazy and it’s not worth facking about on BSS sites for the equivalent cost of a coffee. but also because i know there are those in need of those stuff and if i’ve had my use of something then why not pay it forward and let another mum and bub get use out of it to?
    Exactly the same for us. I had a heap of stuff from DD that I was given that I never used. At work each year we donate to a DV shelter, so that’s where a lot of stuff went last year. So unused toys, hand/footprint plaster sets etc that I didn’t need went there for Christmas presents.

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    Default WDYT? Selling baby gifts

    I’ve (almost) always passed on anything I’ve been given - either given it to someone I know, or given it to an op shop.

    I can only think of 2 instances where I’ve sold a baby gift. One was a toy that we already had. I sold it cheap and used the money to buy something else for bub. The other was a second hand bumbo that my mum had bought. We didn’t want it, and they were with about $30 at the time, so I sold it and bought DD something else.

    I’m pretty much with the others. I’d expect a used swing to be passed on for free. As for the clothes, if they weren’t used then I’d expect them to either be given away or sold cheaply and discretely.
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    the only thing i’ve actually sold was a walker of ds’ that he outgrew and was a pita to store. we bought it ourselves though so i felt why shouldn’t i recoup some of my money. literally everything else has been donated.


 

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