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    Oh DSS my heart broke for you reading that. Are you seeking support for yourself as well, not just workshops or that, but actual, strong support? I cannot imagine what you are going through. Just know you have the whole of bubhub behind you xo

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    Quote Originally Posted by SheWarrior View Post
    Oh DSS my heart broke for you reading that. Are you seeking support for yourself as well, not just workshops or that, but actual, strong support? I cannot imagine what you are going through. Just know you have the whole of bubhub behind you xo
    Right now aside from dh and understanding family and friends, this is my support. I have made steps to get some though, just gotta wait for appointment day now.


    And to everyone who recognises me.. There are still so many of you all still here that I still remember. Thank you all so much. You are all the reason I keep popping my head quietly every now and then and also why I'm here now

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    Oh my gosh I remember you too! I have returned recently as I have my own stuff going on and remember such a great network here - thank you Bubhub.

    I was thinking as I read that you should really have some specific support for you and DH too, please know we are thinking of you.

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    I am so sorry you are going though this. I suffered with an ED for over 15 years (started at 17), which was encouraged by a toxic “friend”. It’s going to be hard but you are going to have to keep this person away from your daughter at all costs. Do what you can, no matter how hard, to help your daughter recover. I had no one fight for me and still struggle to this day with it. Be tough... Your daughter will thank you. Also check out the F.E.A.S.T website- has lots of resources and support for families of children with eating disorders

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    remember it’s a mental illness, you might be able to “fatten” her up but unless the mental is dealt with the demons will still remain. I battled most of my teen years (42kg at 17 and thought I was obese), still fighting demons expect now after two kids and metabolism slow I actually am overweight

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    DSS is your MIL back yet? You’ve got us here if you need us. You are doing a wonderful job, stay strong.

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    Mil is back. We did let her visit dd1 but only after a serious conversation about how bad things are, how important it is to not make comments that could harm progress etc.

    The visit seemed to go ok.

    Anyway, the hospital thought it was a good idea to use day leave as incentive to follow the program better. We didn't think it was the right thing but thought maybe a day out would do her well. Anyway.. Just before leaving I discovered she has been hiding food. Dh and I struggled with what to do. Tell on her and she lose day visit she probably really needs and lose any trust or let her have the day and then suffer consequences later.

    We let her have the day. We are still questioning our decision but we do feel she may have really needed to get out and about to see what she is missing.
    @amyd the mental illness part we totally get. She's had anxiety issues all her life. Getting someone to acknowledge that and give her appropriate help is another. Counselling has not worked in the past.

    She's in for a long haul stay by the look k of it. We are a month in and probably gonna be that again at least.

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    Sending love DSS, it must be a tough journey you are going through. I would have given her the day out too. You’re doing a great job x

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    She is so lucky to have you as her mum. I struggled with an ED (in my 20s) and my parents didn't handle it well and it still hurts. Your daughter is going to be so thankful to you one day x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fi Poledancer View Post
    She is so lucky to have you as her mum. I struggled with an ED (in my 20s) and my parents didn't handle it well and it still hurts. Your daughter is going to be so thankful to you one day x
    I highly doubt it but I can hope. She's narcissistic by nature unfortunately.

    I have asked they do a room search and it was meant to be done today but I haven't heard if it did and when I called up I got them just after shift change and there were no handover notes about it. But considering she has now 200gm since Thursday they are well aware she's hiding food.


 

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