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    Default What would you do if you were going to TTC in 2019

    Due to endometriosis and low ovarian reserve I froze my eggs age 23, with the advice to use them by age 30 for the best chance of success.
    My partner and I have been together 5 years and I will be 30 in 2019 (he is 32).
    As we knew we will probably be TTC in 2019 (probably right at the end of the year) and have known this for a few years, we have been trying to do all the child free things we want to do before the end of 2019.
    We are holidaying this year to places that we imagine are hard to take a baby (eg Africa etc.)
    Neither has any health issues which I see being an issue apart from my likely fertility issues: neither of us smoke, we are both healthy weight, we only drink socially.
    My question is this: if you knew you were going to be TTC in about 12 months time (with likely IVF rounds), what do you wish you knew or would have done. It doesn't have to be health related, could be relationship or work related etc. Maybe things like get fitter, renovate the house, go on more date nights etc. Thanks!!

    (I wasn't sure which topic to file this under)

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    I guess this will be different for everybody but for me, i made sure i did things i wouldnt be able to do, just simple little things I love like take long luxurious baths, sleep in and have lazy brunches on the weekend. On a more practical note, in hindsight, I wish I hadnt wasted so much money on material things like shoes, handbags, clothes, haircuts (but not holidays and experiences- they aren't material imo) because i feel like every extra dollar I could have saved would now equate to more time off work to spend with my baby. Oh and i wish i had have saved and planned and organised time off with dh to have a babymoon awesome last chance holiday once id made it to the 2nd trimester, just to celebrate being pregnant and get the holiday bug out of my system. Oh and talk to happy mums with a joyful but realistic perspective about motherhood so you get a realistic perception and dont make unrealistic expectatuons and pressure on yourself and stay away from whinging mums who only go on about all the negatives and are full of dire warnings. All a bit random but im just brainstorming for ya xx Best of luck to you and partner. :-)

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    Oh and read ivf threads on bubhub so you have realistic expectations about the whole ivf thing. Can take more than 1 go and even if it does work 1st go, its still a stressful time. Join a thread and get support from other lovely ladies in a similar position to you. And take doxycycline and wear insect repellent because you def dont want to get malaria in Africa! (Lol i sound like my mother)

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    Save some money (because you'll be parting with it soon enough).
    Go out to brekky after 8am.
    Go out for dinner after 5pm.
    Baby sit for friends so you can have some credit in the bank.
    Enjoy your coffee while it's still hot.
    Mostly though, plan to do some things whilst you're doing IVF. It can take several cycles, and putting life on hold while you do them means you can lose months or years of "living". So keep some stuff for while TTC- life doesn't end, but it can certainly seem like it

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    Default What would you do if you were going to TTC in 2019

    With hindsight I’d actually get started with TTC sooner rather than later. It can be a long and frustrating road with delays and disappointments. All the best. I know it I sound like a Debbie downer but I wish when I started my journey I was better prepared for all the waiting and ups and downs and the 3.5 long years it took us to conceive xx
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    Quote Originally Posted by bel2466 View Post
    With hindsight I’d actually get started with TTC sooner rather than later. It can be a long and frustrating road with delays and disappointments. All the best. I know it I sound like a Debbie downer but I wish when I started my journey I was better prepared for all the waiting and ups and downs and the 3.5 long years it took us to conceive xx
    Totally agree with this too. Oh and id be booking appointment with fertility clinic months in advance as they often have a long wait to get on the books. Also, i feel like a debbie downer menrioning this too but frozen eggs usually have about a 50% thaw rate, just so you know. Often fertility specialists dont tell you this stuff up front. I naively used to think if you had 10 eggs, they would make 10 embryos and then you could have 10 babies if you wanted. I do wish in hindsight like @bel2466 that i was more prepared for the real odds of ivf just to lesson the shock and dissapointment. But in saying that, many people do get lucky first go and miracles do happen. If you can see my signature that probably explains my debbie downer view of ivf and my belief in miracles. xx Definitely live it up as much as you can afford to before starting ivf and be aware of the financial impact of ivf too. (Conflicting advice but ttc is crazy journey for many of us)

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    TBH I wouldn’t do a lot. Maybe a trip and that’s about it. Prior to having DS, DH and I were living our best life! Holidays, expensive dinners, concerts, going out whenever we liked. We had the best life! Adjusting to a baby can be hard work when you go from having it all to being tied down at home. It was a huge adjustment for us from being super social to spending so much time at home!

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    Frozen eggs generally have a 90-95% thaw rate not 50%. Or maybe I'm thinking of embryos. But otherwise I agree to start sooner than later. The average number of transfers to fall pregnant is 4. We were trying to conceive for 8.5 years (not doing fertility treatments that whole time) before falling pregnant with ivf on the fourth transfer (3 of which were good quality embryos).
    Bub is sure any day now and we've got a 7 day cruise booked for oct for our 10th anniversary. The in laws will be looking after bub while we are gone. We'll likely take her on our next holiday though.

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    Think that’s embryos, eggs don’t thaw nearly as well as embryos.

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    [QUOTE=gorgeousgeorge;8883928]Totally agree with this too. Oh and id be booking appointment with fertility clinic months in advance as they often have a long wait to get on the books. Also, i feel like a debbie downer menrioning this too but frozen eggs usually have about a 50% thaw rate, just so you know. Often fertility specialists dont tell you this stuff up front. I naively used to think if you had 10 eggs, they would make 10 embryos and then you could have 10 babies if you wanted. I do wish in hindsight like @bel2466 that i was more prepared for the real odds of ivf just to lesson the shock and dissapointment. But in saying that, many people do get lucky first go and miracles do happen. If you can see my signature that probably explains my debbie downer view of ivf and my belief in miracles. xx Definitely live it up as much as you can afford to before starting ivf and be aware of the financial impact of ivf too. (Conflicting advice but ttc is crazy journey for many of us)[/QUOTE @gorgeousgeorge how are you doing honey?

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