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    Quote Originally Posted by Ahalfdozen View Post
    There is a possibility this might be the case? If there is a different dad, perhaps the sibling knows but doesn’t want to share?
    This is possible - the biological child has long suspected that an abrupt/random trip their sibling made to their old home town (which involves considerable travel time) was maybe to find/meet their 'real' dad. I believe this was quite a while back, after their father passed away.

    I can't imagine asking your mother such a question - despite what happened in the past, if they are wrong about their hunch, it would be insulting and hurtful.

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    As the saying goes “let sleeping dogs lie”

    Ds1 has a different dad to Ds2 & dd. He knows this but we don’t talk about it or discuss it. If he wants to one says we will but until then he isn’t interested to know everything or even that person

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    I would 100% ask the Mum! It’s your family history. But, you would need to be prepared for the answer. As in, what if this changes your relationship with your mum. And would you/could you keep it from the sibling?

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    Default WWYD? Sensitive subject, suspecting sibling has different father

    My family had a situation just like this. My grandma and grandad both had blue eyes and a negative blood group, as does my father and his brother. His sister, the youngest, has brown eyes and positive blood group. 🧐
    My grandparents are both gone now and no one ever asked. Everyone wonders though. I do wish someone had discretely asked. It is part of the family history.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-LIKE A BOSS View Post
    I would if I was the sibling who thought I had a different father because it would be my story and my history. But not if I was the one who suspected their sibling had a different father - not my story.
    This. Unless as someone also mentioned, mum was terminally ill, near the end, OR there was a medical need to know (organ donation)... But again, it should be preferably, the one with the paternal doubt to ask

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    I think disrupting someone else's life and their identity, for your own curiosity (and let's face it, that's what it really boils down to) is incredibly short sighted. There's no reason to raise this. Sometimes you just have to be left wondering. Quietly and to yourself.

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    hmmm... I think this question should only be asked by the child who possibly has the different dad. If they dont suspect, why even go there. Leaving it doesnt change anything but asking the question can change lot for the person involved.
    However....on the other hand, if the other child does infact have a different biological father....do they have a right to know? What happens if they do find out but it's too late and that father has passed away? Have they been denied a relationship with them?
    hard one imo.

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    I’d keep quiet. Too many potential problems from telling.

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    This actually could be me in this situation
    My sister and I have suspected one of our sisters is not our dads child. I wouldn’t say anything to her and to be honest I don’t think she suspects anything. It would break my dads heart I think if he found out one of my sisters wasn’t biologically his.

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