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    Default 5th miscarriage- where to now?

    Hi everyone
    I have been reading Bubhub material for a few years now but this is my first time posting.

    I am 37 and DH is 33. We just found out at a scan today (9 weeks) that we are having another miscarriage. This one is particularly tough as we had seen the heartbeat twice at 6w2d and 7w4d.

    Our history is 6 pregnancies and of those one has resulted in our son who will be 2 in October.
    4 missed miscarriages and 1 natural miscarriage. They have all stopped growing between 6 and 8 weeks. I have had 3 D&Cs and had genetic material tested once which came back chromosomally normal. I will likely have another d&c next week in the interests of testing.

    I had a hysteroscopy 3 months ago and there was no evidence of scar tissue, fibroids or anything so i don't feel too concerned with another d&c.

    DH and i have had karotype testing and all is normal. My AMH is 19. FSH, thyroid function are normal.

    For this most recent pregnancy i have been taking low dose aspirin and 300mg / day progesterone pessaries. Also 5mg folic acid and extra iodine.
    I have also been doing acupuncture since May.

    I take co-enzyme q10 and melatonin for egg health and am generally healthy.

    I am based in NZ as of the last 6 months but prior to that was in sydney's for many years. Our only other real option from the FS here is IVF with PGS.
    He seems to think its possible i have a much higher number of abnormal eggs than would be "normal " for my age. I don't know whether to go straight to this or try again on our own. The process is exhausting emotionally and physically especially when it feels like miscarriage is inevitable.

    What else can I do?? They don't do NKC testing here but it is something I could look at doing on a trip back to Sydney as we go back a couple of times a year.

    We are lucky enough to fall pregnant as soon as we try but it doesn't feel so lucky when more often than not they end in complete heartbreak.

    We are beyond devastated and at the moment i am in shock that this is happening again. I think now its finally dawned on me that we might not get there.
    I am grateful beyond measure for my beautiful boy but I still absolutely yearn for a sibling for him. Life is so hard, i just want to hide from just about everyone and everything. It all comes back to this.

    Any suggestions or ideas of what we could try or look into would be amazing! But otherwise it was good to get all this off my chest.

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    So sorry to hear you are going through this OP. One question I have is which pregnancy resulted in your son? Was it the first pregnancy or one of the earlier ones? If so, you may look at DQ alpha gene testing for you and your partner. Matching DQ alpha genes can cause infertility and can often present firstly with a successful pregnancy, then an inability to keep a pregnancy and then an inability to conceive. Most fs don’t routinely test for this so you may need to request it from your fs or even find an fs who will test for it. Wishing you all the best.

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    Thank you for your reply.

    My succesfully pregnancy was my 2nd pregnancy of 6 so this might just be something to look into.


    Is DQ alpha testing the name of the test I should request my FS to look into?


    Thank you so much for the suggestion, I really appreciate it.  

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    I don’t have anything useful to contribute, but wanted to say that i really feel for you and your DH, and I’m so sorry that you are going through this again. I can totally relate to the exhaustion of the process, and I’ve only had two miscarriages. In your position, i would probably go to IVF to enable greater monitoring and testing, but I haven’t done IVF myself (it will be our next step of this pregnancy isn’t successful) so I can’t suggest any specifics. All the very best for your next step.

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    Thank you.
    I think it is exhausting no matter whether it is 2 miscarriages or 5, so am sorry you guys are dealing with this too.
    Hoping that you get a happy outcome

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    I'm afraid I don't have much to contribute, but I just wanted to express my sympathy and say how very sorry I am to hear what you are going through. It is absolutely devastating. I have also had 5 mc in trying for my third, so to some extent I can relate. It is so hard to know how to go on. Please take care of yourselves and go gently. In my experience, the pain doesn't go away, but at some point I did start to feel less terrible. So, I hope the same happens for you. Seek help if you need it to get through the emotional side of things. And I do hope you find a helpful way forward in terms of tests or treatment that might be beneficial. (I have put my losses down to advanced maternal age, so haven't gone down the path of additional testing etc, but I hope you get some answers.) all the best to you x

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    Thank you very much for your kindness.  I hope you are doing ok too x

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    Michy1980, I’m so sorry to hear everything you’re going through. It just isn’t fair at all! I don’t have much to suggest as I’m currently in the same situation as you. Having a lot of miscarriages & trying to find out what’s causing them. It’s heartbreaking & I know how hard it is & difficult to get answers.

    I have a 3 year old daughter which is our little ivf baby. Prior to her I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks (D&C) & a chemical one.

    After her I’ve had 3 miscarriages in a row (pretty much one every year, 1 ivf pregnancy & 2 natural pregnancy). They’ve all had heartbeats & have stopped growing between 7-8 weeks. Just like you, I was recently 9 weeks thinking everything was great when we found out we lost our little one in July this year.

    I’m so sorry again to hear you’re going through this too. My OB can’t see me until mid September so I can’t discuss further testing until then. My babies from the D&C have all tested genetically fine so I don’t know what our next steps are. I’m thinking of getting a 2nd opinion as I can’t keep going through this.

    I hope you find your answers & get your take home baby soon. xx

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    Thank you Rocky27. Gosh our situations sound really similar! Sorry that you are also going through this. It is so devastating and exhausting.
    I know what you mean about a second opinion- I feel like we can't just keep doing the same thing. I also feel panicky about chances of miscarriage after having so many. It all just feels a bit impossible.

    Wishing you luck and strength in the rest of your journey.

    If I find out any useful information I will share it with you.

    Take care x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Michy1980 View Post
    Thank you Rocky27. Gosh our situations sound really similar! Sorry that you are also going through this. It is so devastating and exhausting.
    I know what you mean about a second opinion- I feel like we can't just keep doing the same thing. I also feel panicky about chances of miscarriage after having so many. It all just feels a bit impossible.

    Wishing you luck and strength in the rest of your journey.

    If I find out any useful information I will share it with you.

    Take care x
    I know, that’s what I was thinking too was that our situations sounded so similar!! It’s been so awful & again I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing too.

    Yes, I’m trying to find a doctor who will take my concerns seriously. As much as I love my OB, she keeps telling me it’s bad luck & that we can go back to ivf whenever we want. It’s getting too much emotionally & financially to keep going through this but at the same time I want another baby more than anything in the world. It just seems so unfair when others seem to have a baby so easily!

    I’ve had a lot of genetic testing & so has hubby. Nothings really come up which is why I think my doctor keeps saying it’s bad luck. But surely it can’t be this much bad luck! I’m hoping to see another doctor just to see what they say then try to go from there. If there’s something wrong I just want to know what it is & decide what to do from there.

    At the moment I’m terrified of getting pregnant & going through this again.


 

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