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    Quote Originally Posted by L.j View Post
    I've given birth 5 times (all natural). 1st 2 labors I was restricted to the bed. Monitoring was the main reason but so was my inexperience and lack of confidence. It was soooo painful as I couldn't move to relieve my pain. Next 3 labors I refused to be 'tied' to the bed and my most important request was that I needed freedom to walk/move around. My midwives were all very understanding and if they did need to check my babies HR etc they hand held the monitor on me and followed me around

    The main tips I tell anyone that asks is -

    1. Everyone's experience is different
    2. Moving around definitely helps you cope with the pain so if u want to walk/sway etc then do it
    3. Do whatever YOU need to do at the time and try to be open minded (massage, shower, bath, walk, gas, epidural etc)
    4. During the actual delivery GRAVITY HELPS. My last 3 babies were born while I knelt on the bed (back of the bed was completely sitting upright and I was facing and leaning over the back of the bed that was upright - hope that makes sense )
    5. During labor don't be afraid to say what u want but also listen to suggestions from the midwives too. You can choose to accept their suggestions or not.

    Lastly, like you, I did not want an episiotomy but did have one with my second labor. At the time my bub was in distress and all I wanted was her to be out so I didn't care.

    Good luck
    Thanks for ur great advice L.j! Especially about monitoring I didn't know it was possible to do while you're up & about. I guess we never know what situation we could face & at the end of the day healthy babies r the priority xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by KJane13 View Post
    Wow amazing how different both of urs were. Thank u so much for the tips on pushing, part of my birth plan is absolutely no episiotomy 🏼. How did u find the hospital was with respecting ur wishes for natural / unassisted? x
    Two different hospitals, the last one was the better hospital, well I didn’t plan on it at the time, first one I asked for an epi but was too late, second one I decided I’ve done it before so I won’t ask for one plus I’d heard horror stories of long term side affects and from what I’ve gathered it seems more likely to tear and have interventions and complications, I’m not totally sure but from what I’ve read so far this seems to be the case plus you can’t feel down there with an epi so you’re not in control of the pushing as much so more likely to rip.

    Sorry I meant To say no intervening or complications, but I had the midwives there to help take baby out so it was assisted, not sure what I meant to say or the right word sorry, I’ve still got baby brain 5 months on

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    Default Sharing Birth Stories <3

    My Contractions started at 8pm on a Wednesday, went to the birthing unit at 5am the Thursday. Contractions were all day, I was given gas but it wasn’t really helping so I gave in and got the epidural around 3pm. I started to push around 7pm but Bub was becoming distressed so forceps were used, before doc could cut me bub came flying out causing a fourth degree tear. Luckily I had the epidural so I didn’t feel anything when I teared. I was taken to theatres for 4hours. I’m all healed now but will have to have a csection for my next one.
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    Both my babies were emergency CS births.

    My 1st I felt well prepared for a vaginal birth, had my bag packed and birth plan tucked in there neatly. She came 3 weeks early and I hadn't got to the caesaran part in the book! So all the CS stuff was quite shocking and unknown. The birth plan never made it out of the bag!

    I started with bad indigestion and back pain when I went to bed thinking "****, 3-5 weeks left and my body's already packing it in!" woke up the next morning and had to run to do #2s, back to bed, then again. By the 3rd time I realised I was going every 7minutes! After about an hour I started vomiting with each contraction. I rang the hospital and they reassured me this was normal. But I couldn't even keep a lick of lolly pop or a chip of ice down. I was vomiting bile and feeling terrible, so got DH to come home so we could go to hospital.

    It was a 38 degree day and he came home to me on the couch in full winter getup, shaking like I was cold, but he said I was burning up.

    At hospital they hooked me up to everything and contractions were great, 3min apart. I was effacing but not yet dilating. My temp was close to 40 and both bub and my heart rates started going through the roof. It was the day they did all the booked CSs, so the specialist OB was in, plus the paediatrician and my OB was in checking on another patient. All 3 saw me separately and agreed that a CS was needed due to bub's tachycardia. If I'd been dilating or waters had broken they would have tried pitocin to speed things up.

    I was fine after birth, no more fever or vomiting. So when it came time for number two bub, I was worried that maybe that's just how my body reacts to labour.

    I was wrong though! Next time was much more text book start to labour - waking at 1am with contractions but feeling normal. Took myself off to the bath which helped soooo much! After a few hours, down there felt odd so I got out to check and discovered waters had broken. So got DH and made our way to hospital.

    I was monitored for 20min and all good. Internal showed effacing but no dilation. Good strong contractions bout 5 minutes apart. I was put into a ward room and was super impress at how 'low risk' I was treated as a VBAC. Unfortunately I started getting meconium in my waters, so they took me to the suite for monitoring. All was good for a while but then bubs heart rate started spiking with contractions and only just sitting below 'the line' otherwise. Still no dilation! I was offered either pitocin to try to speed things up, but informed that bub would be quite worn out due to the heart rate, or a CS. DH and I discussed and decided 'better the devil you know' - another CS!

    My biggest advice is not to blame yourself if things don't go to plan. There are lot of women who do everything "right", labour actively, no intervention or pain relief, but still need an emergency CS or other emergency intervention.

    I had lots of plans and determination for a natural birth with my 1st. But my body threw me an almighty curve ball. I then had huge milk supply issues (ditto with bub 2) and on the whole was just feeling like a complete failure as a woman - I couldn't birth a baby, I couldn't make enough milk, etc.

    2nd time around I was prepared for the good, the bad and the ugly, and mentally I coped so much better when my body refused to do the right thing again (both birth and making milk!)

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    I’ve been induced three times, my body doesn’t seem to go into labour on its own and my babies don’t like to engage until super late.

    My first my blood pressure was slightly elevated at my 7 day overdue dr appt and so gel was arranged for that night with waters and drip the following morning. Unfortunately come morning she was still not engaged and the risk of cord prolapse was too high so looked like caesarean, but by some miracle while we were waiting for review by the head ob she decided to engage. 4 hours later she was in our arms and I used gas only. My placenta didn’t detach on its own and so within the hour I was in theatre under a general having it removed. I got cuddles first though and it was well explained what was happening and why. Had some stitches which were done in theatre.

    My second our induction was booked for 4 days overdue, again not engaged and blood pressure rising. Gel again the night before, with drip and waters planned for the am however on assessment in the morning my cervix wasn’t favourable (too high and hard) so we had a second dose of gel which started contractions and when they came in the afternoon to break my waters and put drip in she was born within an hour and a half. Again gas was my best form of pain relief although when they insisted I use it during the stitches it did make the room spin a little. Placenta detached naturally, tear was almost third degree.

    My third I was being induced at 10 days overdue, they generally will induce by day 10. We went in the night before for gel, cervix still high but starting to dilate, so they did a smaller dose. The gel gives you contractions but they can fizzle after a few hours, well mine didn’t fizzle this time. When we moved to birthing suite it was to lie down and have some rest, with pan forte and temaz to help me sleep but it was too painful to lie down, I ended up using gas again but was too active for the ctg so dr came in to do a scalp clip and discovered I was 9cm. She was born maybe 10 mins later. All up it was just over 5 hours from gel applied, again stitches although not as bad as previous.

    I highly recommend a book called Birth Skills - Juju Sundin. It will give you a tonne of ideas to help you utilise throughout your labour and will help you understand what your body is doing and why.

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    I've had three homebirths (planning my fourth) with no issues, complications or tears, just a slight graze for the first. I remember reading Ina May during my first pregnancy, oh and Dr. Sarah Buckley is excellent.
    My first birth started about 11am (very gentle contractions) ramped up about 9pm babe arrived 4am.
    Second birth started 9pm, babe born at 4am.
    Third birth started at 9pm babe arrived midnight.
    The main advice I would have is to treat it like a marathon, keep yourself hydrated and nourished and know you CAN do it. Eat very well in your pregnancy and walk/gentle exercise as much as you can. Being well nourished with high vitamin and mineral stores plays a huge part in an uncomplicated pregnancy and birth and then vitally, the recovery afterward. I thank a WAPF-inspired diet for my experiences. https://www.westonaprice.org/health-...rsing-mothers/

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    With DS I had pre labour for a few days then at 38 weeks exactly contractions started ramping up. Contractions were very irregular, coming 1 minute apart, then 7 minutes apart etc. the hospital kept telling me to stay home, but I couldn't stand it so we went in.

    Turned out they were full, which is why they were telling me to stay home! In the assessment area they found I was 5cm but the contractions were extremely strong. They needed to transfer me to a different hospital but weren't sure I'd make the ambulance ride. They told me I may have to give birth in the assessment area (only shielded off by curtains). Luckily I was on the gas and couldn't stop laughing at the situation.

    I made the ambulance ride and my labour stalled. Epidural failed multiple times then finally worked after many top ups. My water broke and it was thick meconium so I was heavily monitored. At the new hospital hours went by with no change even with pitocin so I was told I would probably need a c section. When they came to check I was 10cms. 10 mins of pushing DS was born, healthy and happy. Recovery was hard, I had a 2nd degree tear that got badly infected and was in a lot of pain for 6-7 weeks.

    With DD I had had issues with an irritable uterus and threatened preterm labour for weeks and was on medication to stop contractions. I had a c section planned for 38 weeks. I stopped the meds at 35 weeks and at 36 weeks I woke up to slight bleeding, the runs and pains so went into hospital. I was 4cm and progressing fast so they did an immediate c section, DD was healthy and happy. Recovery was easy, I was in less pain following the day following the c section than I had been for most of the pregnancy (Spd and irritable uterus).

    I'm now pregnant with number 3 and have a c section planned for 39 weeks but know I will go into labour before then!

    With both my births I had no real birth plan (other than that I would probably want an epidural) and was prepared to go with the flow. I think that was helpful for me, particularly with DS where I didn't even get to birth at the hospital I had chosen!

    Good luck, there is absolutely nothing like giving birth and those newborn cuddles!

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    First birth- Contractions started at 40+8, went to hospital that night and was only 2cms and fully effaced so given the option of going home. I went home took the two panadine fort given and fell asleep. Woke up the next morning with no contractions. About an hour after being up they started again, laboured at home all day, went back to the hospital that night, still two centimeters. Stayed and laboured at the hospital, mostly on the bed, started gas and air sometime during the night and had pethidine about 3 in the morning after being told I was only 3 cms. About 7 in the morning the was still no change so my waters were broken and hormone drip started. DD was born at 9:30, I didn't listen to the midwives and pushed like crazy so tore pretty bad. Stitches were done in the room, local anesthetic was given first. Placenta took about an hour to deliver.

    Second- woke up at 39+4 with light but very regular contractions, laboured at home all day, they ramped up at about 7 and we went to the hospital about 11. I was 6cm and given something for the nausea I was feeling g. Laboured in the shower for ages then started to get annoyed by it so moved to knelling at the end of the bed. Started to get irritated by the midwife sitting behind me so moved to the bed. Was checked and was 9 cms but babies head was high. Started using gas for a while, next check was the same. Convinced midwife to break my waters, she wanted to wait for the doctor, I felt DS start to descend as soon as she did, not long after I birthed the head but babies shoulders were stuck. The midwife hit a button and more midwives came, they pushed my legs back while they were bent and did some other manoeuvres to free DS. His was born at 3:30 am, placenta took a while to deliver again and I had a couple of small tears due to the shoulder dystocia.

    Third birth- completely different. She was enhanced at my 35 week appointment, at 36+1 my waters broke on the toilet. We headed into hospital once DH got home, contractions started on the way. Got to hospital about 4pm, spent some time on the monitor before getting into the bath. Laboured like that before it started to annoy me, once back in my room I started pushing and DD was born at 6pm. Placenta was taking a while again and the student midwife was pulling on it, she pulled to hard and I ended up with retained membranes and eventually antibiotics after I was still bleeding at 8 weeks post partum. No tears this time.

    Finally, my fourth- I was set to be induced this time to avoid a repeat shoulder dytocia. DD was not playing ball and refused to drop low enough creating a risk of cord proplapse. Eventually it was decided I would be admitted to and given gel, aiming to give me some contractions and push babies head down as I was already 4 cms and had been for weeks. Gel was given in the pm, slight cramps all night and next morning, hospital was full so I kept getting moved back and DD still was too high. DH and I went for a walk and up and down the stairs a few times, then I started having having proper cramps and could feel the pressure of DD being lower. Assessment confirmed this, still 4cms so was taken to have my waters broken. Doctor did that and was happy to leave he midwife in charge with instructions to call if he was needed. I was on wireless monitoring so could have used water if I wanted but I was suddenly very hot so did not. I laboured and birth kneeling next the bed leaning forward on a chair, it was fast and furious and DD was born 25 minutes later with no issues, 39+5 like DS and about 200 grams smaller. Placenta also came away the quickest it ever had for me and I had no tears. I also lost the least amount of blood out of any of my births.

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    My first was a spontaneous labour pretty much bang on due date. First twinges started at about 10pm (not painful, just enough to make me pay attention) and very slowly increased. Woke DH at about 4 or 5am the next morning and told him he won’t be going to work. Stayed home and watched TV on the fitball for most of the day. At about 3pm we went for a walk and contractions ramped up in intensity and frequency so we went to hospital. I was having really strong and really frequent contractions but was only 2cm when I arrived. It was very painful so I got in the bath - and I HATED it! Made the pain so much worse. Standing in the shower was much better. Then the most comfortable position for me was lying on my side. By 3am (12hrs after arriving at hospital) I was only 3-4cm. I was exhausted and devastated! Midwife suggested an epidural and I agreed, it was the best decision ever. As soon as it was in everything started to progress much better. I was almost fully dilated within a few hours and I was so much more comfortable. Maybe it’s just me, but I could still feel the contractions they just didn’t hurt. I could also feel the pressure. So I was still able to push effectively. DD went into distress though (meconium in the water, heart rate dropping) probably because the labour was so long and she’d had enough. She was delivered with forceps, I had a few stitches, but recovery was pretty good. I didn’t have to do any of the remedies people talk about for stitches.

    My second was totally different and much more “medical” but was by far a better experience. I was induced at 40+3 for reasons I’m sure some people would argue we’re not valid reasons (I was over it, DS was IVF and I was worried about an increase in risk of stillbirth, and we needed someone available to look after DD). Went in at 7am for gel, drip a couple of hours later and epidural early. It took all day to get me into real labour, I was contracting well but cervix wouldn’t budge. At 6pm OB said we’ll turn everything off and rest overnight, try again in the morning. He went home and they turned everything off, an hour later I was having loads of strong contractions and OB had to abandon his dinner and rush back in. DS was born at about 8:30pm, no tears. Again despite the epidural I could feel the pressure and contractions (minus the pain - in fact taking the pain away meant I could focus more on what my body was doing without the distraction of pain). The birth was very calm, just DH and I with one midwife and the OB, I was on a massive high!

    My births kind of go against what a lot of people consider to be true - water was terrible, lying down was good, epidural sped things up and I could feel what was happening, induction gave me a less complicated and more enjoyable birth.

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    @Cue my induction was also my favourite birth all round!

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