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    Default Completely silent miscarriage, what should I do?

    Hey everyone,
    I found out yesterday that I am having a missed miscarriage
    with absolutely no symptoms. The doctor has given me three
    options, 1. Wait for it to happen on its own 2. Have misoprotol
    to get everything moving or 3. Have a D&C ..

    I had a miscarriage in March and had misoprotol as my body
    couldn't expel everything, which was incredibly hard physically.

    Can anyone help with what I should do? I'm so scared but I'm
    hurting emotionally knowing my poor little angel is gone but
    I still have all of my pregnancy symptoms which don't seem
    to be fading at all yet

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    I havent been in your situation so i cant give advice on that, but you know your body what is it telling you? All the best

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    Sorry you're going through this, think very carefully about having a d&c. I've had two in twelve months and just found out I have scarring most likely from the procedure. I wouldn't of had one last miscarriage if I had known about the risks.

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    Sorry to hear When I had a missed miscarriage, I had a d&c because I want to resolve it then and there, I knew it would torture me if I took either of the first 2 options.

    Good luck, only you will know what's right for you x

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    Thanks ladies

    I've been leaning towards having the D&C purely because
    it was torture going through the last miscarriage and
    having the constant reminder everytime I went to the
    toilet and I'm not sure I can I could cope with it all again
    but I've done some research and the risks scare me.

    I'm so confused

    Does anyone know how long it could take for it to start
    if I do go natural?

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    Default Completely silent miscarriage, what should I do?

    Hi hun I personally wanted to move on and not wait so I have had d and c. I didn't want to be a work when it happened or out shopping or something. I also had them tested which lead to IVF. And I had a successful pregnancy after two d and c two egg collections and 3 embryo transfers.

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    My partner and I have discussed going to a fertility specialist before we try again but we aren't sure how we go about it

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    I think the first step is to get a referral from your gp.

    You could also go to a information night at a clinic they have them and just go and see.

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    Hi Mog Mog,

    I'm so sorry you're going through this, Ive gone through it twice and it's devastating.
    On my first one I kind of didn't know what to do so I waited, but that was playing games with my mind, never knowing when something might happen and I had another little one at home too, so it was worrying.

    After about a week I had the D&C.
    When the same thing happened again I was in disbelief, but at least I had the practical tools to deal with it.
    The first time I was blowing in the wind.
    I didn't wait this time.
    I went and booked it immediately.
    Just make sure if you do decide to take that option that you go to a reputable clinic, and a good doctor should be able to help there.

    Not sure if this info will help but on the first loss I didn't see what they took.
    I didn't think to ask.
    After the grief subsided I really regretted that.
    On the second loss I asked to see what they took. It helped me so much mentally to take that moment to say goodbye.
    I'm just letting you know because it's an overwhelming time and it might be something you think of later.

    Take care X

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    I had a missed miscarriage early last year. My obstetrician said I could have a D&C or wait for it to happen, but she said it could take weeks for my body to figure out that the heart had stopped.

    I opted for the D&C. She did it under ultrasound guidance so she could see what she was doing.

    For me, this was the best option. I wanted it over with, plus we were going on a cruise a week later and I was worried about it happening while I was away, or there being complications.


 

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