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    Default Toilet training lost temper help

    DS was trained 4 months ago. All was well for first 3 months. I expected regression as happened with older kids but DS has gone so far back not sure what to do next.

    He has started to deny he needs to go. Even when he clearly does. So I've been picking him up and running with him, "racing" him to the toilet, 1,2, 3 go... bribing with buying a new toy if he goes by himself. Most of the time for the past few weeks he starts to go in his undies then will finish on toilet. Bear in mind he was going perfectly.

    So this morning I lost my temper (I know- absolute worst mother in the world) when he said he didn't need to go and I could tell he did. I went to turn off iron and he ran to his room and pooed al over his pjs and ALL over his carpet. Which is only two months old. So I quickly put him on the toilet and I yelled at him. Like really yelled

    So apart from feeling ashamed of myself for being a crap parent. (He is my third and I've never ever yelled during any toileting disaster or accident.) what do I do now?

    Do I put him back in nappies? I'm so scared I've messed him up by losing my temper. He has had so many accidents lately but it almost seems like defiance. I know he know he needs to go and he was doing perfectly but now just going on his bedroom carpet?!

    Any tips? Please don't scold me for yelling at him I know how bad that was but any ideas on how to move forward positively?

    Thanks

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    Btw.. He's 3 in August

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    My DD turns 3 in September and isn't even close.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mamasupial View Post
    My DD turns 3 in September and isn't even close.
    I know he seems young but for months he was going just fine.

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    Its ok everyone loses it sometimes. Just tell him you are really sorry for being so angry and you didn't mean it. Maybe ask him if he wants nappies back on again or if he's going to be a big boy and use the toilet? If he wants nappies then put them back on him and try again in a few days time.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candiceo View Post
    Its ok everyone loses it sometimes. Just tell him you are really sorry for being so angry and you didn't mean it. Maybe ask him if he wants nappies back on again or if he's going to be a big boy and use the toilet? If he wants nappies then put them back on him and try again in a few days time.
    I agree with this completely. We've all had parenting moments we regret. Try not to be too hard on yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candiceo View Post
    Its ok everyone loses it sometimes. Just tell him you are really sorry for being so angry and you didn't mean it. Maybe ask him if he wants nappies back on again or if he's going to be a big boy and use the toilet? If he wants nappies then put them back on him and try again in a few days time.
    Thanks so much and BettyV don't know how to quote more than one post sorry

    He got upset when I asked him if he wanted nappies. Going to go out and buy a sticker chart and see how we get on with that

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Thanks so much and BettyV don't know how to quote more than one post sorry

    He got upset when I asked him if he wanted nappies. Going to go out and buy a sticker chart and see how we get on with that
    Random thought, he doesn't have a uti does he?

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    Quote Originally Posted by BettyV View Post
    Random thought, he doesn't have a uti does he?
    I never thought of this. Just googled symptoms, he doesn't have smelly urine and isn't complaining of pain but I'll keep an eye on him and ask dh if he has noticed anything. He did have a couple of days where he seemed to be weeing a lot.. but not yesterday

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    Is it wees or poos that are happening in his pants and finishing on the toilet? Either way it could be constipation. He may be reluctant to sit on toilet so starts to go in his pants hoping he can hold it in.

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