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    When DS1 was born it felt like we had people banging down our door to see him. We had someone over most days in the early weeks of his life. DS2 was born 2.5 weeks ago and apart from parents and my siblings only my 2 close friends have bothered to come and meet him. Just wondering if this is common with subsequent kids? I remember my aunty saying once that no one cares as much about your newborns after the first one, even though to you they are so precious - I can see what she means.

    Can't say I'm not a little disappointed that people aren't wanting to come and visit him or even texting to see how we are going and if we are up for visitors. Has anyone else found this was the case?

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    Yep. Similar happened to us. Even fewer have come to see the 3rd!

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    Yep, same happened here with number 2. Even my brother in laws and their partners didn't go out of their way to visit her.

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    I'd be happy! I find the constant visitors when you have a newborn so draining. They seem to always come when the baby is sleeping too, when you finally get a moment to yourself to sleep/shower whatever and then you have to entertain them.

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    Same here and mine are 9 years apart. We had visitors and friends coming over for the first 6 wks to help me while I recovered from my c-sec then they just stopped because I was more mobile again. I actually felt quite hurt as there where a few friends that did a lot for me and I wanted to take them out to a nice lunch as a thank you. 10 months later I'm not even going to bother asking them to come out anymore now

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    My experience was, there was definitely not as much excitement with the second.

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    I'm due with #3 & was saying to hubby today that it almost feels like no one cares! We have a boy & girl already & this one is another surprise & it doesn't even feel like anyone is bothered what it is like they were the last 2... even the MIL is booked to come down well after Bub is born, the first 2 she was on our doorstep so bloody quickly!

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    I noticed this too with the second bub, nowhere near as many visitors or cards wishing us well- not that they needed to send cards or gifts but it was just very noticeable how different to the first it had been. I felt sorry for my second!

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    I agree. Even in hospital I had my aunties coming to visit with #1; now only one Aunty has seen my son and that's only because she came to my parents house when we were there, not knowing that we were there in advance.

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    Ladies if we where all in the Same state we could have our own mums group and designated times to visit each other r


 

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