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    Default Losing friends because I am infertile

    Hello Ladies

    I am feeling particularly despondent. My husband and I have been on the baby making roller coaster for 17 months now with no luck. We have one final attempt with Liz Labor, then we will start IVF at the end of the year. Anyway the point of my story is, I had/have a good friend who has also been struggling and we've shared a lot. She recently had her ovulation sorted and has started having her period (still has PCOS) and has told me on several occasions she can't sign up for a few events we usually do together as she will be pregnant. She's stopped messaging me or asking to hang out - This is breaking my heart as I feel I have no one to share with anymore and also makes me angry I have confided in someone as this is the dark side of sharing your journey, people then become afraid of you if they either a) get to the start gate or b) get a better chance at it. I am devastated and I don't know what to do as this is hard enough already.

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    Hi Blw084,

    I just wanted to say I am sorry to hear how this freind is treating you, I experienced something similar to what you described about 3 years ago, I honestly do not understand how it is alright for them to be your friend and then all of a suden not communicate or want to catch up. In the end although I was upset and annoyed I realised a true friend would not treat me like that and I am probably better off with out them, I really wish you all the best

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    If you want to chat or someone that will just listen, I would be happy to do so just private message me

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    Thank you Ranger Baker, I am glad I am not the only one experiencing this. I don't know what do about it, whether to say something or just leave it be and move on. This is hard enough as it is and she knows that as I have shared it with her. She did say to me the other week 'I am going to feel so bad when I fall pregnant before you, but I promise I will tell you'. I understand it's coming from a nice place, but it just hurts.

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    How awful! I don't understand why she's counting herself out of activities unless she's actually pregnant and waiting to announce. Ovulating is no promise it'll happen immediately, I ovulate and have been at it for a year with perfect timing and still no baby.

    I hope you find support in other places and she realises that by alienating herself/you she's missing out.

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    I am sorry I don't really have any constructive advice for you but the friend I was referring to had not even told me she was expecting, by chance I happened to bump into her and I said I thought we were friends how come you didn't tell me you were expecting, she said quite charigoricaly that oh well you know now. I really just hope that your friend does not do something similar to you

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    I'm so sorry this is happening to you! Her behaviour is unfortunately not that of a true friend at all in my opinion. I would hold my head high and continue on your journey. As unfair as it is that she's treating you this way, let her go for a while and see if she contacts you. If not, there's not a lot you can do unfortunately. It really does sound like a tough time for you, but tough times don't last forever xxx

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    Hmmm maybe you should feel relieved that this "friend" has started to show her true colours. I don't know understand counting yourself out of things unless you are actually pregnant.

    I dearly dearly hope you fall before her . My bubbas were IVF please don't be scared of it.

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