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    Default Trigger warning - at what age do you let your kids use public toilets

    By themselves? I was just reading this
    http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/man-wanted...23-gvqomt.html
    A 12 year old boy was grabbed in a shopping centre toilet (thankfully he got away) , i know it's rare but can happen, DS is only 6 so still comes in with me or at restaurants he might go with older cousins but what age did your kids start going to the toilet by themselves?

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    My kids (6,4,2) have used the public toilets as a group before in our local town. These are toilets where I can stand at the door and see straight in so I feel safe.

    Other than that they go with me. And to be honest I'm not sure at what point I'll stop that.

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    My DS is 10 and I still won't let him go alone at shopping centres. I take him to a parents room or disabled toilet and wait outside.
    I hate that we even have to think like this and just when I think maybe I'm being silly and paranoid, this sort of horrible thing happens.
    That poor boy, I'm glad to hear he wriggled away but still, very frightening.

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    I'll also add that I don't know what age I'll stop. Maybe when he's nearly my height??

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    DS is 10 and I also have 2 younger DDs. Where possible we use a family/parents toilet but sometimes not practical especially if there's a queue and a desperate child. I managed to get him to come into the ladies with me under duress until a year or so ago, now he flat out refuses. He looks younger than his age and I think most ladies are understanding of a mum with a boy in the ladies but he isn't comfortable. Every time he goes in on his own I remind him to scream/run out if something is't right. He rolls his eyes. I guess I fall in the 'alert but not alarmed' category. Go on his own when I have sight of the doorway or am in the adjacent ladies - yes. Let him find and go to the men's on his own if we were in another part of the shops - no. But by and by I'll have to lengthen that rope.

    By age 12 he'll be starting high school which may involve public transport and a bus change in town. And if he needs to go while waiting for the bus it would be a public toilet on his own. I want him to be aware of his surroundings (take a friend if possible, check for other people around within earshot) when doing so but not terrified.

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    I have taught my teen that going to a public toilet is like walking to your car at night...when possible, take someone with you (if it's a quiet one...there are some known public toilets that are always busy at certain times). I know some will think my decision is OTT but I don't care. Toilets are enclosed spaces that are hard to get out of. I don't even like going to a quiet public toilet on my own.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    Toilets are enclosed spaces that are hard to get out of. I don't even like going to a quiet public toilet on my own.
    Totally OT but I find public toilets just strange. An enclosed space where you do your business in a cubicle right next to someone else doing their business, separated by a thin wall and segregated by gender. There's just no other 'social situation' quite like it. I wish all toilets were a unisex single room, like disabled toilets. I think if it were socially accepted, most people would prefer to use a disabled toilet over a shared toilet space.

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    DS1 is nearly 10 and he will only use the family/disabled loo. Very rarely does he want to go to the males alone and if he does he has rules he has to follow. Go into a cubicle do your business wash your hands and get out or if we are near my work I take him there

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    I haven't even given birth to my bubba yet and this is one of many things that worries me already.

    I do a lot of travelling for work so need to use public facilities quite often. It's usually very early in the morning when I make my first stop, and I don't mind admitting that I will walk up and down past each cubicle to make sure there are no weirdo's hiding in there waiting to get me.

    It's a sad state of affairs that a grown woman should feel that way, and it will affect my decision in regards to whether or not I'll let my child use public toilets alone.

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    We use the parenting room toilet.
    With DSD showing signs of getting her period though it's getting tricky as sh doesn't want DSS there.
    I tell them to go into female toilets together... I don't care what people think of a 9 year old boy in there- it's all cubicles and if he isn't in a cubicle he is at the sinks.


 

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