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    Unhappy Pill Surprise.

    So hi all.

    Im 22 on the 24th. I have two kids, 4&1/2 and 2. My oldest lives with my nana for now, family court pending for him to come back to live with me. My youngest is in fostercare, pending reunification in approx. 6 months maybe 12 at worst. I was on the pill and with a new partner (both previous kids have separate fathers so this makes three for three *I feel like a total *****)
    I have worked hard on turning my life around since my youngest was in fostercare. I was in a dv relationship and was on drugs, Im now 8 months sober and loving my new life. However Im ****ting myself thinking DCP will take this one too despite the changes they can see I am making, I feel like running away and hiding.

    I haven't told my family yet, my partner his mum and step dad know and so do a couple of my friends but that's it, I feel alone, scared and trapped. My depression is playing up but due to the possible risks I've stopped taking my antidepressants. I haven't even been to the doctors yet because I'm scared they will report me to DCP.

    Stressed and scared and totally lost.


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    Congratulations on staying sober. Well done.

    Best thing you can do is seek support and use all the support available. Get the gp to do a mental health plan and see a psychologist if needed. How far along are you?

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    The best thing you can do is show them you are getting support when you need it, by talking to the doctor about risks/benefits of your medication. Find a good doctor, if you don't already have one, who can support you during your pregnancy, this will show you are doing the best for yourself and your baby.

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    Agree with previous posts. Definitely see your GP for antenatal care and get a referal for a mental health plan. It can be dangerous to stop taking some medications cold turkey, so you should ask about whether you should wean off them or switch to one that's suitable to take during pregnancy.

    Also, make sure your home is suitably set up - clean, food in the cupboards (even if it's just tinned foods, formula & bottles of you aren't going to/able to breastfeed), and that you'll have an appropriate space for baby to sleep. Maybe even if you can take some parenting classes, if you haven't already, just as another thing to show that you're doing everything you can to make sure bub will be looked after. I think that would be another plus to your case.

    If you & your partner are sober, maintaing a suitable home, and seeking appropriate physical & mental health care then they will have no reason to remove bub from your care.

    It sounds like you've done a lot of hard work to turn your life around. Keep going! I wish you all the best.

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    Absolutely what everyone else has suggested so far. The best thing you can do is fully engage with health service during your pregnancy. Make sure you seek antenatal care and attend all your appointments. Show that you have changed and are prepared to jump through whatever hoops are required to maintain custody of your baby. The absolute worst thing you can do is try and hide away, as limited/no antenatal care is a massive red flag for child protection services. When you're referred to the hospital, engage with the social workers if required as they will be able to help you follow through with any recommendations, engage with the specialist drug/alcohol team if recommended - even though you're not a current user, by engaging with them they can help support you through the pregnancy if you are prone to certain triggers etc. and my number one recommendation is to be transparent. Be open and honest. I promise you the system is not out to trick you. The number one goal is to keep mum and baby together if it is safe and the best thing to do. It just may mean that once baby is born you have some follow up to ensure you're coping and managing ok, especially if your other children haven't been in your care. Also they can help support you through the transition period if and when your other children are returned to you. Best of luck!

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    almost eight weeks

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post
    Agree with previous posts. Definitely see your GP for antenatal care and get a referal for a mental health plan. It can be dangerous to stop taking some medications cold turkey, so you should ask about whether you should wean off them or switch to one that's suitable to take during pregnancy.

    Also, make sure your home is suitably set up - clean, food in the cupboards (even if it's just tinned foods, formula & bottles of you aren't going to/able to breastfeed), and that you'll have an appropriate space for baby to sleep. Maybe even if you can take some parenting classes, if you haven't already, just as another thing to show that you're doing everything you can to make sure bub will be looked after. I think that would be another plus to your case.

    If you & your partner are sober, maintaing a suitable home, and seeking appropriate physical & mental health care then they will have no reason to remove bub from your care.

    It sounds like you've done a lot of hard work to turn your life around. Keep going! I wish you all the best.

    As part of proving myself to get my youngest back, I've done circle of security, family abuse integrated response, my partner and I have stable accommodation in a three bedroom house which already has a shared bedroom for my two sons. Now I have to set up a nursery I'm still on random drug testing and have opted to extend my drug testing from the six months (which I've almost completed) to twelve months

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    Sounds like you're on the right path! Just keep doing what you're doing, and they'll have no reason at all to intervene. Good luck on reunifying with your boys, and having your whole family together soon after bub arrives!

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    best wishes for the new bubba

    sounds like you are on the right path ... hopefully you can be reunited with your family soon too


 

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