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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Why are they asking you and not the hosts?
    This.
    IMO they should be upfront with the hosts who are the ones who are going to have to deal with the aftermath if they or their little ones get sick.
    In your position Op, that's what I'd suggest - talk to the hosts. That way you can't appear to be picking sides or getting in the middle of their argument.
    If it's presented in a way that's about being responsible house guests rather than challenging either parent's parenting decisions, I think that would be best

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    No brainer. Kid comes first so of course they shouldn't go. Imagine being stuck in a car for ten hours if an adult is feeling sick. How much worse is it going to be for a little kid?Not to meant they are about to ruin another family's Easter holidays by bringing a contagious sick kid to their house.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    Why are they asking you and not the hosts?
    The parents are quite young. There are issues there that are complex and difficult. I think one party is withholding information from the family they are staying with. The other party is not game to speak up.

    They went to doctors today. It is Hand Foot and Mouth and the doctors recommendation was for him not to travel. He is on panadol and antibiotics. He is drinking very little and grizzly. Vomiited several times.

    Mum has decided she is taking him and thats it.

    Dad's opinion not heard. That is why he turned to me...for help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jmd460 View Post
    The parents are quite young. There are issues there that are complex and difficult. I think one party is withholding information from the family they are staying with. The other party is not game to speak up.

    They went to doctors today. It is Hand Foot and Mouth and the doctors recommendation was for him not to travel. He is on panadol and antibiotics. He is drinking very little and grizzly. Vomiited several times.

    Mum has decided she is taking him and thats it.

    Dad's opinion not heard. That is why he turned to me...for help.
    In the little boys best interest, tell the other family of the issue so they can put their own foot down.

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    In the little boys best interest but also in the interest of the family they are going to visit. HFM is EXTREMELY contagious. Tell your son to put his foot down, he's the dad he needs to make the right choice and tell her they are not going, it honestly is not an option. He needs to say No.

    If your daughter in law is desperate to see her family, why not suggest she still go and you help your son care for your grandson while she's away?
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    It is an absolute no brainer that the child shouldnt go.
    The absolute selfishness of some people really shocks me.
    My SIL brought her 2 year old twins who had GASTRO to my inlaws house, knowing full well that my FIL has CANCER and is doing chemo. Of course he got desperately ill and ended up in ICU, and the SIL seems to think it is all some huge coincidence.
    Just no words for the selfishness.
    Mind, she also leaves her kids with my MIL for 4 days Friday to Monday EVERY fortnight so she can go have some "ME" time in Melbourne.

    I'd phone up the hosts and tell them the situation, I bet they'd be horrified.

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    Its quite clear that they shouldn't go. I am absolutely on the side of do not go.

    However, no one can force the mum to stay home if she decides to go. Yes, he's the dad, but she's the mum and he doesn't have the right to 'make' her do anything, (even if staying home is the better decision).

    Its a horrible situation, most of all for the poor little baby who's so sick.

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    Yes he can absolutely insist that his sick child stay home. No he can't make her not go, but he can insist his unwell child is kept safe at home. Of course he can.

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    Even if she leaves the child at home, she can still spread viruses if she herself caught something and isn't showing symptoms yet. The host family needs to be informed, but it looks like they won't be.. what a selfish thing to do.

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    If I were you I would be doing everything I could to convince your son to get in contact with their hosts and tell them the situation. I would be beyond furious if visitors purposely and knowingly brought their child with HFM into my home.

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