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    I would like a second opinion please.

    I have a 1 year old grandson who is sick. The Doctor said he has either a strep infection or hand, foot and mouth. He has tonsillitis and a blister rash on his hands, bottom and others. He starts antibiotics tomorrow.

    My son and DIL had planned to drive for the easter break 10 hours to stay with family. The other family have little ones too. Given the one year old is sick and the fact that he is so uncomfortable, my son feels it is very wrong to put him in the car and take him. His partner disagrees and they asked my opinion.

    I think it is a no brainer, strep infections are nasty and they make babies miserable. I believe that if he has a rash, infected tonsils and has a fever he should most definitely stay home and not travel for 10 hours to stay at someone's house, particularly if he is still contagious.

    This has caused a disagreement between the two.

    I just cannot for the life of me understand how they can take him if he is as sick as he is tonight.

    I am wanting an urgent second opinion from another parent please?

    What would other parents do?

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    If someone came to stay and brought their sick child who was suspected of having HFM I'd be fuming.
    1. Poor child traveling when unwell.
    2. Incredibly poor form exposing other people, particularly other young children, to the illness.
    I'm sure if the host knew that their child might have HFM their invite would be cancelled.
    Last edited by babyno1onboard; 11-04-2017 at 22:52.

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    I would certainly stay home.

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    I'd stay home..nothing for the 1yos sake and to stop the spread to other children

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    They need to stay home. No ifs buts or questions.
    Who in their right mind thinks it's ok to take small child who is clearly very unwell to stay with another family with small children? That is unbelievably selfish and disrespectful. This honestly blows me away that anyone would even consider this to be ok
    As @babyno1onboard has said - if the other family knew of this child's illness I am certain they would tell them not to come. If someone turned up here to visit fully knowing their child is sick I would turf them out of my house and it would actually severely damage my relationship with them as it shows zero regard for the health and safety of my own child.

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    I think this is a decision for the parents to make, not a grandparent. Sorry, you may have the best intentions but its not your place to involve yourself or have a say.

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    As for what i would do.. most likely stay home. There have been occasions where i have made a decision regarding my kids that from the outset may seem strange but i had my reasons.

    I remember one year my mother in law was going to be looking after my then 3 yr old for an afternoon while i went to a bbq. He woke in the morning and was sick and expressed to me he wanted to stay with me that day rather than go with his grandmother, so i cancelled on her. She called me to ask me to reconsider but i held firm. My friends at the bbq told me i should still come, they had set up an area with a bean bag, a movie, some colouring books and some lego for my son. Rather than staying in our home with broken air con on a 40 degree day, i went to the bbq with my son while he slept off his illness on the beanbag in a lovely air conditioned room. That was 4 yrs ago and my mother in law still brings up how irresponsible and uncaring i was to bring my sick toddler to an adults party 😐🙄

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    Quote Originally Posted by Barnaby View Post
    I think this is a decision for the parents to make, not a grandparent. Sorry, you may have the best intentions but its not your place to involve yourself or have a say.
    They asked me what my opinion is on this. I wanted to make sure that I was being reasonable with my response. As I posted this they were still asking.

    I am being bombarded by messages by them about it.

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    I wouldn't take my child sick especially with HFM, that is highly contagious, away at this time. Few things I would worry about is obviously a sick child traveling so far in the car, the risk of infection/irritation if he's sitting on his bum for hours in a car seat with blisters on them and lastly I wouldn't want to risk passing it on to any other person. I was furious when my friend came around with her son who had HMF and passed it on to one of my daughters, yes they can catch it anyway but there was no need for that child to be sick and out of the house with him causing my child to get the virus.

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    I can understand still wanting to go, but have they spoken to the other family? I know I'd be furious if someone came to stay in this situation without telling me first about the illness.

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