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    Hello!

    This morning it was about 7C with rain forecast for later so when I was getting my daughter ready for school I insisted that she wear her warm waterproof boots and her winter coat along with a hat and a scarf. My daughter told me that she wanted to wear her tennis shoes instead and that she didn't want to wear her coat at all, just her fleece jacket.

    I told her that it was wet and cold and that she had to wear her warm clothes and she said that she doesn't like how she looks wearing them. I made her wear them anyways and she wasn't too happy about it.

    Her boots are almost knee length with a waterproof exterior and are lined on the inside. Her winter coat is a calf length down coat that is also waterproof. It seems like as the weather gets colder I'll be having this issue more often. Do any of you have tips?

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    I tended to give her 2 or 3 choices ... (probably not with boots, but with clothes) so that she feels like it is partly her decision

    and to try and compromise - you can wear what you want when you get home, but for school you have to wear xyz ...

    other than that - its a battle I still face

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    Quote Originally Posted by BH-KatiesMum View Post
    I tended to give her 2 or 3 choices ... (probably not with boots, but with clothes) so that she feels like it is partly her decision

    and to try and compromise - you can wear what you want when you get home, but for school you have to wear xyz ...

    other than that - its a battle I still face
    I let her pick what she wore under her winter coat, and she brought another pair of shoes with her so she could take off boots at school. Her problem is with just wearing her outerwear.

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    Why couldn't she wear what she wanted? If she feels cold that's on her. That's the consequence. Surely she could take her coat and boots to school if she needed them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    Why couldn't she wear what she wanted? If she feels cold that's on her. That's the consequence. Surely she could take her coat and boots to school if she needed them.
    Yep. This ^^^

    My children don't seem to feel the cold at all.

    ETA I live in very chilly Victoria- last year, (when it was snowing) some kids at my child's primary school were wearing shorts. My daughter insisted on wearing only her fleece and no coat. They still all played in the snow and had a ball. They're nuts but they don't seem to care about how cold it is!
    Last edited by yadot; 10-04-2017 at 10:19.

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    If dd doesnt want to rug up when its cold i make her pack a jumper/coat in her bag for when she does feel cold

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    My ds1 and I have always argued over this sort of stuff.

    He'd be happy just to wear his school shirt and no jumper or jacket last winter, the rest of us would literally be in ski clothing!

    In the end I just gave up and let him wear what he wanted.
    Eventually he worked out that he was cold & needed to rug up.

    It saved my sanity to just let it go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Unschooling4 View Post
    Why couldn't she wear what she wanted? If she feels cold that's on her. That's the consequence. Surely she could take her coat and boots to school if she needed them.
    She would be stubborn and refuse to wear them even if she was cold

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Yep. This ^^^

    My children don't seem to feel the cold at all.

    ETA I live in very chilly Victoria- last year, (when it was snowing) some kids at my child's primary school were wearing shorts. My daughter insisted on wearing only her fleece and no coat. They still all played in the snow and had a ball. They're nuts but they don't seem to care about how cold it is!
    In my opinion it's alwa

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Yep. This ^^^

    My children don't seem to feel the cold at all.

    ETA I live in very chilly Victoria- last year, (when it was snowing) some kids at my child's primary school were wearing shorts. My daughter insisted on wearing only her fleece and no coat. They still all played in the snow and had a ball. They're nuts but they don't seem to care about how cold it is!
    In my opinion it's always better to play it safe and bundle up, especially if you're outdoors for a while.


 

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