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    Thank you all, it really helped

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    If it's any consolation I don't think many OB's (or midwives) will discuss birth plans etc in your first antenatal appointment. Mine was 1 1/2 hours long, covering timelines for testing, a history of my health, verifying that I feel safe at home and have support, and monitoring of my BP. At 28 weeks I've only just booked in to my hospital a couple of weeks ago and we are only tentatively starting to talk birth options, although not in great detail.

    I remember being in your position though. So excited to finally be pregnant and wanting all the answers! It's an exercise in patience this pregnancy business, you really do have to take each step at a time. There are always risks to be considered I suppose, so there is no point jumping the gun. Just enjoy each little milestone, because soon enough you'll be feeling like it's all going soooo fast!

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    1.5 hours talking about screening and potential problems with the pregnancy does sound pretty depressing. I saw an obstetric GP throughout my pregnancy, who is also my regular GP, & my first pregnancy appt was always super fast - like "I peed on a stick and it was positive". GP - "oh yay, that's great! Do you want to do the 12 week scan?" Me "nah" GP *checks my blood pressure, tells me to come back at 12 weeks, then sends me on my merry way*. It is bery casual, but also a bit of an anti-climax after the excitement of a positive pregnancy. I'm sorry your first appt wasnt what you hoped, OP. If it helps, when the pregnancy progresses & you start to see scans/ listen to the heartbeat, discuss things more - it gets more fun and exciting along the way Good luck and all the best for your pregnancy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheeeeesecake View Post
    1.5 hours talking about screening and potential problems with the pregnancy does sound pretty depressing. I saw an obstetric GP throughout my pregnancy, who is also my regular GP, & my first pregnancy appt was always super fast - like "I peed on a stick and it was positive". GP - "oh yay, that's great! Do you want to do the 12 week scan?" Me "nah" GP *checks my blood pressure, tells me to come back at 12 weeks, then sends me on my merry way*. It is bery casual, but also a bit of an anti-climax after the excitement of a positive pregnancy. I'm sorry your first appt wasnt what you hoped, OP. If it helps, when the pregnancy progresses & you start to see scans/ listen to the heartbeat, discuss things more - it gets more fun and exciting along the way Good luck and all the best for your pregnancy.
    Yeah 1.5 hours is excessive! I would've struggled to stay awake for that long. Whatever happened to giving out leaflets, any questions give me a call and sending you on your way?

    My appointments were much like ^^ cheesecake.

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    Quote Originally Posted by yadot View Post
    Whatever happened to giving out leaflets, any questions give me a call and sending you on your way?
    haha don't worry,I also got HEAPS of leaflets (haven't had a chance to go through them all yet... a week later almost!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheeeeesecake View Post
    If it helps, when the pregnancy progresses & you start to see scans/ listen to the heartbeat, discuss things more - it gets more fun and exciting along the way Good luck and all the best for your pregnancy.
    haha i had a scan at 6 weeks-a few days before the OB appointment- and thought we would discuss that at the appointment. We didn't at all. I was so glad i "twisted" the radiographer's arm into giving me a copy of my scan images so that DH could have a look (he couldn't be present for it) he didn't get to hear the heartbeat like i did but at least he got something to make this pregnancy a bit more real to him as well.

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    I have had quite a few lengthy appts with my midwives and obstretricians. I left my appt feeling so down and upset yesterday as I felt they had an intervention with me in regards to a c section being quite difficult for me due to a fibroid on the EXACT place an incision would need to be made, plus a higher incision would mean cutting through my anterior placenta. They know I'm reluctant to have a VB after a very traumatising first labour and birth, and due to this I find they bring up mental health and counselling every time I go (which seems to be fortnightly). It can seem a bit like they know more than they let on but I think sometimes they don't realise that what they are saying can come across as insensitive etc. but maybe because you've had a previous procedure they feel that you will be open to hearing all of the details.. when in reality it's not what you want to hear at 8 weeks!

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    I'm surprised given your history with the OB that they did that. My first OB appointment was 45 mins and he did the general screening, also asked about mental health issues, I think it's just creating a file on you. All of the risk factors are depressing when you are so excited. Going through IVF we were only filled with risks and chances of failure. I found it so difficult to get excited about it until the 13 week scan. Our fertility specialist even told us not to get too excited until at least 12 weeks and after having the blood test for genetic conditions. They know how to spoil everything! But then again they see the sad side of things too so I guess he was only trying to bring down the expectations (I'm 40). It seems that once you are 40 it's all doom and gloom!! Nice. My OB has been nothing but positive since the start. He's great. Treats me like someone who got pregnant the normal way which is a breath of fresh air after all of the nastiness of IVF. I hope your next visit is better. If it's not is there any way you can go to another OB? It might be worth it for your own sanity if you are made to feel like that every time.

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    We're having our second scan tomorrow -well today actually now- which i am so excited about! Then next Tuesday is the second OB appointment so hopefully the results from the combined screening are good and she starts talking about nicer things. I will try and keep my expectations low as well to avoid the same situation as last time.
    Husband just finally paid attention to me talking about the cost of going private, especially the $2k+ management fee due at 20 weeks and is now talking about going public so we may actually end up changing OB... 😕 anyway, one thing at a time!

    Fingers crossed everything goes well tomorrow as the ultrasound!

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    I had the opposite.
    I went private for my first 2 babies, and my appointments were always so fast, I always walked out of there like wow... wtf did I just pay for.

    so I went public for my 3rd and 4th. I think I would have loved a 1.5hr appointment so I felt like I was getting my moneys worth! Haha

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