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    Default First OB visit... SO depressing

    Good morning everyone,

    I am 8 weeks pregnant and I had my first pregnancy OB and midwife visit yesterday afternoon. I was pretty excited and got the husband to come with me (for which, in hind side, i'm both grateful and regretful: it was great to have him with me for support, but if i had known, i wouldn't have bothered making him take half a day off). To make it short it was SO SO depressing. Still struggling a bit this morning.

    I know my OB relatively well, i have seen her a few times before and she's the one who did my laparoscopy in Jan, she also helped making this pregnancy happening. I have met her midwife before as well. So we sort of skipped the introduction/background history that you'd expect for these first appointments. I was pretty excited to introduce them both to my husband and make this pregnancy more "real" for us both, get heaps of info and.... i don't know really.

    I was definitely not expecting almost 1h30 of screening information and talk. Which is very much what happened. I get the importance of screening and we both want to know as early as possible if something isn't quite how it should. But 1.5hours of it? The importance of screening, what we are screening for, what the risks are, what the figures are, this other screening and that other screening. Oh and don't forget to come for a quick ultrasound before that screening to check for a heartbeat because it is quite expensive and we don't want you to spend that much money if the pregnancy isn't viable.... and it goes on and on and on. We then finished the second appointment (OB) by discussing the possibility of a referral to see a mental health specialist around 20-28weeks if the pregnancy becomes too stressful...

    As i said, i appreciate the importance of screening -we will now do some screening tests- and i appreciate their emphasis on making sure our mental health keeps up with the pregnancy but still. I left the clinic feeling like i shouldn't be excited, not yet because hey, who knows... feeling like getting pregnant (even after our troubles) isn't enough. Almost as if she knows something we don't. Feeling a bit lost now. I mean hormones (and nausea, hunger, exhaustion, constipation) are hard enough to deal with, a bit of positivity and happiness wouldn't have hurt.

    Anyone else had a similar experience? Or am i just being overly hormonal ?

    thanks

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    Yes I had a somewhat similar experience. I dont know your history but with my 2nd pregnancy I was 41 years old.

    In my nuchal my sonographer was SO negative. Just went on and on and on about my age. I know she had to inform me but I felt she went way over the top due to her own prejudice. Then she took my blood pressure and it was sky high (surprise surprise). She then snarkily told me I could expect BP problems throughout my pregnancy.

    And wouldnt you know my pregnancy was a breeze, problem free, resulting in a perfect baby girl.

    Congratulations with your pregnancy

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    All my pregnancies had an initial 1 1/2hr apt to cover all the screening stuff. Sounds pretty standard really.

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    Yep mine was like this.

    I was 26, no known issues. Pretty standard I think.

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    Can't say any of my 3 pregnancies were like this. We spoke about it, but relatively quickly.

    We definitely didn't speak about mental health - is there any particular reason she might have mentioned it?

    Enjoy your pregnancy op, it's yours, don't let anyone wreck the experience x

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    Hey I know you feel defeated try looking at it from a different angle you and hubby are now fully informed and able to make the right decision for you guys as a couple and a growing family should anything go not to plan.
    I know it's hard and normal to feel overloaded and overwhelmed with the information but try and relax and enjoy your body is doing amazing things growing a little human. It's normal to be anxious and stressed but it's also normal to be excited. Have faith all will be ok and have faith your body will do the very best job it can. Run yourself a bath maybe get a movie or so,etching tonight cuddle up to hubby and breathe. Put today behind you and take tomorrow as it comes. It will be ok sending hugs and good vibes

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    Wow! All my OB appointments were 15minutes. We just got given the referral for the 12 week scan and blood tests and that was it.

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    Ive had the opposite experience and i have to have screening due to my genetic condition (cvs). My ob took about 20!mins each appointment and was positive despite the stats not being in my favour .

    I dont think they can tell much at 8 weeks.. as in she cant tell by the scan if you need screening or if youre high risk.. i dont think anyway (please someone correct me if im wrong)

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    thanks for the support. I do feel a bit better about it today.

    I think it's also the fact that, while i spent 1.5hrs with them in total, they basically refused to discuss anything to do with the pregnancy past the 12 weeks scan and definitely nothing to do with the delivery side of things.
    While i understand the risks of miscarriage until then and the fact that the screening results may have an impact on the pregnancy as well, it's hard not to think "ahead". It's not as if i can stop thinking about being pregnant until i pass the magical line of the 12 weeks mark...

    Anyway, i've decided to be positive about it and to try not to be a negative Nancy and only think about the risks and potential problems (ha!)

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    Whenever my GP or anyone starts quoting statistics at me I just reply sternly with "Risk is not destiny". That sort of shuts them up. I get a lot because I am in my 40s, and a bit overweight so I hear the blah blah blah gestational diabetes, high blood pressure, risk of downs, risk of this and that. I've had a few babies and never got high blood pressure, never had gestational diabetes, my cholesterol is fine, all my kids are normal... "Risk is not destiny"

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