+ Reply to Thread
Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 39
  1. #11
    Join Date
    Feb 2014
    Posts
    111
    Thanks
    56
    Thanked
    152
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by Californication View Post
    Perfectly fine for adults, weddings etc, but it just seems presumptuous for little kids. Are you going to be judged if you only put in $10? That's all some people have to spend.

    It would be Ok if they said something like "little X would love a new bike for his birthday, so if you would like to contribute to that, it would be fantastic" but to just straight out ask for cash is off. No issue with the book though. But even then, asking for a book AND cash? Seems off to me.

    As for asking for money to cover the cost of a party at the zoo, I don't agree with that either. Guests shouldn't be expected to pay for the party! If you can't afford it, don't do it. Or ask people to pay their own entry in lieu of gifts.
    Agree money for a wedding is fine most people live together so have everything.

    The first party was at a local park were in Queensland, they went to sydney for a weekend to go to the zoo. Sorry I worded that a bit confusing

  2. #12
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Posts
    3,198
    Thanks
    1,564
    Thanked
    1,729
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I do understand because children just own so much these days. So many little toys that really are unlikely to be treasured and kept forever, it makes sense asking for money instead, perhaps to save up for a big ticket item or family item. I can't imagine anybody judging the amount given; at least not in our circle.

  3. #13
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    2,827
    Thanks
    2,918
    Thanked
    2,681
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BornToBe View Post
    I do understand because children just own so much these days. So many little toys that really are unlikely to be treasured and kept forever, it makes sense asking for money instead, perhaps to save up for a big ticket item or family item. I can't imagine anybody judging the amount given; at least not in our circle.
    I agree, it wouldn't bother me as I know a lot of kids have way too much stuff already, and I'm always worried that I'll double up on something they already have, or pick something that they don't like. So I would be kind of relieved to see that on an invite and not have the pressure of picking the right present.

    But I don't think I'd ever send out an invite asking for money as I'd worry about people's reactions.

  4. #14
    Join Date
    Aug 2013
    Location
    Adelaide, SA
    Posts
    2,388
    Thanks
    727
    Thanked
    905
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    I don't think it's something I do myself - and I haven't yet witnessed it amongst my circle. I'd even feel a little weird asking people to contribute a small plate of snacks or bottle of kid friendly drink for the party, instead of buying a present.

  5. #15
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    1,004
    Thanks
    238
    Thanked
    539
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I think it's incredibly rude, under all circumstances - engagements, weddings, baby showers, baptisms and birthdays. To me, it shows a complete lack of etiquette.
    I will never ever give money as a gift, and certainly not when it's asked for. Just plain rude in my opinion.

  6. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to siansmum For This Useful Post:

    LoveLivesHere  (05-04-2017),RoseMay  (05-04-2017),TheGooch  (04-04-2017),Wise Enough  (04-04-2017)

  7. #16
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Posts
    459
    Thanks
    94
    Thanked
    93
    Reviews
    0
    I'm fairly new to kids birthday parties so have never come across this before. Personally I don't think it's right to be asking for money for little kids or specifying they want books instead of cards.

    I have a set budget for school friends presents and try to buy things on special so the birthday boy/girl gets a good quality present that doesn't cost us a fortune. If I was to gift the budgeted amount as cash I don't know if it would be seen as being cheap or not up to par. I'd hate for DS to be no longer invited or ridiculed because we didn't give enough.

    DS loves to get money as a gift but that's the choice of the giver, he nor we would ever ask for it.

  8. #17
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    10,970
    Thanks
    3,477
    Thanked
    6,926
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    I actually wish they would, or at least tell us what to buy , it's hard buying gifts for kids when your not exactly sure what they have , want or need (especially in the first year or two of school when you don't know the kids very well yet)
    I'd much prefer to give cash so they can buy what they want, with our friends we usually give ideas or know their tastes but with school friends it's harder as most say nothing or he would be happy with anything , then we spend hours trying to find a gift we think they would like!

  9. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Elijahs Mum For This Useful Post:

    AceOfBase  (04-04-2017),BornToBe  (05-04-2017),Happymum2  (04-04-2017)

  10. #18
    BH-KatiesMum's Avatar
    BH-KatiesMum is offline Community Manager
    Winner 2008 - The most optimistic poster
    Winner 2014 - Most Helpful Moderator
    Join Date
    Oct 2007
    Location
    Perth WA
    Posts
    23,342
    Thanks
    5,933
    Thanked
    6,355
    Reviews
    3
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator
    200 Posts in a week100 Posts in a week
    I have to admit with DD's friends we do often give cash ... but that is our choice, its not something the parent has ask for.

    I do think its rude to ask

  11. #19
    Join Date
    Feb 2008
    Posts
    22,171
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked
    1,896
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    We have been to many parties and never even heard of that for kids. We have given money to one child though but we knew he was saving for a particular game and his parents thanked us. I believe most people gave money for that party.

  12. #20
    Join Date
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    3,591
    Thanks
    858
    Thanked
    1,077
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    For me it depends on if you're related to the child or not.

    My nieces and nephews get some money & a gift. So do godchildren.

    If you're talking about random friends or school friends, then I think it's rude to ask for money, nor would I oblige with that request.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Realestate seems strange? Or is this the new normal? HELP :)
    By strawberry apple cheesecake in forum General Chat
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 22-02-2013, 13:12
  2. Perineum 5 weeks post forceps delivery. Is this the new 'normal'? TMI alert.
    By Angiebear74 in forum Postnatal & General Women's Health Chat
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 02-08-2012, 12:54
  3. Asking for Money instead of presents for baby shower
    By meliecinta in forum Baby Showers
    Replies: 26
    Last Post: 08-12-2009, 06:33
  4. New way of asking for a feed
    By Bron in forum Celebrate breastfeeding
    Replies: 5
    Last Post: 29-04-2008, 11:16

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
FEATURED SUPPORTER
Swim AustraliaSwim Australia are the leading learn-to-swim experts, and national swim school authority. With over 600 Registered Swim ...
FORUMS - chatting now ...
REVIEWS
"Made bed time less anxious"
by Meld85
My Little Heart Whisbear - the Humming Bear reviews ›
"Wonderful natural Aussie made product!"
by Mrstwr
Baby U Goat Milk Moisturiser reviews ›
"Replaced good quality with cheap tight nappies"
by Kris
Coles Comfy Bots Nappies reviews ›