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    I wouldn't do any of them and would be furious with my DH if he did any of them. If he did them I wouldn't feel like I couldn't trust him to supervise the children alone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJaq View Post

    Having disagreements with your DP about different ideas of acceptable and not acceptable risks, OP?
    No disagreements, this is just for me. Finally decided after 5 yrs that i need to face my anxiety and get my thoughts and feelings clear in my head (am working with a counselor too).

    Seems strange but after years of being told i was a hovering helicopter parent i have lost my bearings on what's normal and what's not so I'm starting from the beginning, the first 3 years.

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    1: maybe, as some others have said depends on a few things. It's not a blanket no for me.
    2: absolutely no way not ever.
    3: no but I don't think it's as dangerous as number 2.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candiceo View Post
    No disagreements, this is just for me. Finally decided after 5 yrs that i need to face my anxiety and get my thoughts and feelings clear in my head (am working with a counselor too).

    Seems strange but after years of being told i was a hovering helicopter parent i have lost my bearings on what's normal and what's not so I'm starting from the beginning, the first 3 years.

    Every single reply is helpful to me.
    If it helps, I do consider myself somewhat of a helicopter parent and do recognise that I have a lot anxiety around my children getting hurt. But even DH, who is a lot more relaxed than me, said that he'd never ever do any of those as they're too risky.

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    Definite no to 2 and 3. Number 1 would depend on a lot of things, can you see the car, what's the weather like -too cold, too hot, how long will you be.

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    Nope, I wouldn't do any of these. No way!

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    1 - in most instances no, but in some instances it might be ok. I have a chemist across the road form my house where you can park and walk in and see the car. One time I was home alone with all 4 kids and desperately needed chlorsig eye ointment. i rang the chemist to ask if they had it, said I'd be right there. Got there and ran in without the kids, she had it out ready for me but needed to label it. I paid and said I'd go wait in the car with the kids and she brought it out to me. In that particular instance I was literally inside for 1 minute while I paid and could see the car so I think it was fine. I desperately needed the drops and it would have been ridiculous to unload and reload all 4 kids for the sake of a 1 minute transaction. Had I only had bub with me though I would have taken him in.
    2. Definitely not no way no how.
    3. I have walked away from my children in the shops when they refusing to come, but I always know exactly where they are. if I ever lost sight of them or was unsure where they were for even a second I'd be calling their name like a crazy person. Anyone could just grab their arm and take them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Candiceo View Post
    1. Leaving newborn in car alone at night while going into chemist briefly.

    2. Allowing 2yr old to play (alone no siblings) unsupervised in unfenced front yard in suburbia for 5-10 minutes. Minimal car traffic but high pedestrian traffic area.

    3. Not calling out for, or following 3yr old in large department store when they wander out of sight (alone, no siblings).
    1. Possibly okay if car is in sight and you're just running in to pick something up.

    2. No way.

    3. Generally not okay. Though if I was browsing in a section for a present or something and DS wandered into the next aisle to look at something I wouldn't be rushing straight after him. I also wouldn't be leaving him alone long without following or calling out though.

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    No to all three.

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    I wouldn't do any


 

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