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    OP's post reminds me of something my mum would write. She can't stand to be around children for longer than 5 minutes and has ridiculous expectations for how they should behave.

    Hope this is fake. Poor kids

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    Having a blended family myself and knowing the struggles to have my children and partner adjust (it never did work out and they now live with my mother) I find this post sad and horrible.

    Ok you're venting but what you have said is extremely selfish. Does your partner know you feel this way? I can't imagine wanting to stay with someone who felt so badly toward my kids.

    My advice, explain and leave. Find a man without kids. This will come between you for the rest of your life with this attitude.
    Do not have a child together is my opinion. That will be all sorts of bad for everyone.

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    Wow. Just wow. I kind of hope you're not a genuine poster. 3 primary school kids. That means age 6-10. And you're calling them lazy, clingy, challenging, annoying, saying you go to your house for refuge, spoilt and are clearly unhappy about them being with their father. If you feel terrible about it and can't love hem like you should, do everyone a favour and break up with your DP.

    Like it or not, he is a package deal. If you can't accept and care for his kids with understanding that they are clingy and need their Dad after their parents broke up, leave them be. They are kids. You are an adult. And quite frankly, your attitude towards those kids is heartbreaking.

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    Umm I have to agree with the others.
    We are a blended family and if my dh ever said that about my kids I would show him the door. Sometimes children can be annoying, clingy and lazy but they are CHILDREN! Seriously how long do they need to put up with your rubbish attitude?

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    My previous relationship was with a guy who had a daughter full time. I love kids and have always wanted lots of my own, but at the time, I just wasn't ready to commit to a little girl as well as a partner. As much as I loved them both, I was too selfish at that point to share him. I understand that it can be frustrating as it feels like your partner can never fully give themselves to you like a single person would. But you need to understand they are a package deal. I made the decision to leave in order to be true to myself, and to both of them.

    The reality is that those children will always come first. And if you start taking out your frustrations on them, it will become a classic case of "evil stepmother".

    It's time for you to start being honest with yourself and work out if you are cut out for this lifestyle. Are you ready to take on the commitment of co parenting? It sure doesn't sound like it. These kids aren't going anywhere. They are also needing extra support to help deal with their parents separation or divorce.

    To me it is worrying that you are planning to have a baby with this person when you don't even live together. This situation is not ideal.

    I urge you to have a big think about this before you are in too deep and hurt too many little people's feelings.

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    Ps - is this even a real post?? The poster has only made this one post and joins no other forums......?

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    I think it's fake too

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    Sounds like you and your partner are on different pages with parenting. I suggest you get on the same page before having a child together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ellie2008 View Post
    I guess I just needed a place to come and have a vent. My DP has 3 primary school aged girls. The oldest one is great (for the moment) but I find the youngest two to be challenging work. The middle one is quite clingy and can get very annoying at times and the littlest one is just.....well, plain annoying. I don't live with them full time (even though I would like to spend more time at my place), I do attend my home for refuge. But when I go to the DP place after work, they're sitting on the couch, being unproductive and downright lazy. I tell them to go and play and turn off the internet to the television and they just whinge and go to "daddy". They have everything that opens and shuts, have been spoilt rotten by the grandparents and still, it's not enough!! The little one only calls on "daddy" when she wants something and it's dad every other time. She's struggling to read and write and makes no effort to learn. Can't sit still, cannot make decisions, gets distracted very easily and suffers seperation anxiety. How many years to I have to deal with this rubbish? I'd rather them not talk to me sometimes. I feel terrible about the situation but I feel I can't love them like I should.

    Just another thing to add to the equation, we're talking about having one of our own. Anyone else have an issue with a SD brat and brought another into the home?

    All over the place I know but I don't know where to start!!!!
    Show him this post and I guarantee you that he will help you pack your bags.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4B2L View Post
    I think it's fake too
    I hope so for those little girls sakes.

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