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    Default Lazy Step Kids

    I guess I just needed a place to come and have a vent. My DP has 3 primary school aged girls. The oldest one is great (for the moment) but I find the youngest two to be challenging work. The middle one is quite clingy and can get very annoying at times and the littlest one is just.....well, plain annoying. I don't live with them full time (even though I would like to spend more time at my place), I do attend my home for refuge. But when I go to the DP place after work, they're sitting on the couch, being unproductive and downright lazy. I tell them to go and play and turn off the internet to the television and they just whinge and go to "daddy". They have everything that opens and shuts, have been spoilt rotten by the grandparents and still, it's not enough!! The little one only calls on "daddy" when she wants something and it's dad every other time. She's struggling to read and write and makes no effort to learn. Can't sit still, cannot make decisions, gets distracted very easily and suffers seperation anxiety. How many years to I have to deal with this rubbish? I'd rather them not talk to me sometimes. I feel terrible about the situation but I feel I can't love them like I should.

    Just another thing to add to the equation, we're talking about having one of our own. Anyone else have an issue with a SD brat and brought another into the home?

    All over the place I know but I don't know where to start!!!!

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    Ummm can I just say there's a lot about your post that's concerning. How old are the children? How long have their parents been separated/divorced? How long have you and their dad been seeing each other?

    I don't really want to say anything more without knowing more.

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    Default Lazy Step Kids

    I take it from your post op that you don't have kids?

    I appreciate you may need to vent and I'm worried you may get eaten alive- mainly due to the fact they just sound like normal children! Add into the fact they are dealing with separated parents!!- so there is a password protected part of the forum for step parents which may be a bit more understanding..... or maybe not.

    Otherwise I'm not sure venting such as this in a place like bubhub would be a right fit for you. You come across as an evil step mother.
    Last edited by Little Miss Sunshine; 07-03-2017 at 17:43.

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    I think you may need an attitude adjustment!

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    They're children.
    How long do you "have to deal with this rubbish"? Short answer. You don't.
    Perhaps tell your DP exactly how annoying you find his children to be and that you consider them to be brats and I wouldn't be surprised if he helps you not have to deal with this rubbish any longer!
    I smell a rat.

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    Poor children

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    I don't have step children but I imagine the great thing about having step children is that you get to see how your partner is as a parent. Clearly you have issues with the way these kids are being raised, so why on earth would you want to have a child with someone who doesn't parent the way you like. Do you think that he will magically flip a switch and be a completely different dad to what he is to his current children.
    Wake up to yourself. Time to leave. If I was in a relationship with someone who had kids sit on the net all afternoon and no one was doing anything to help a child struggling to learn at school I would not be wondering if I deal with the awful children, but counting my lucky stars I got to see what my future would be like with my partner as a parent to our child and I would leave and look for a partner who's parenting ideals were more in line with mine.

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    How many years do you have to deal with this rubbish? Umm zero, pack your bags and allow people who love and care for them 'deal with it'

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    Thank god you're not my children's step mum. They already have one that is jealous of them.

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    Geez. Their kids. It's normal. Wait til they steal your clothes, make up and high heel shoes and go out all night.

    So many odd posts lately on here

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