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    Say you have another kid.

    Your then toddler gets hurt (my 1 year old is always walking into something) and starts crying, you are busy with the baby.
    Your husband leaves the hurt toddler to cry because he "can't handle it"...

    And a hundred other scenarios similar.

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    I just refreshed my self on your other posts. How are you managing your bubbas clingyness these days?

    Also how involved is your hubby with his other kids you mention in that post? Might give you an idea of what to expect if you have a second and need him to step up.

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    Default Hi all. Need to talk.

    It's probably going to p1ss you off that I am about to quote your other thread, but I feel like there needs to be some context and that it also has to do with this thread. This is some of the stuff you said last week:

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    Hi all. Thanks very much for all your advice. Maybe a visit to the doctor is in order..... I have another question. And I don't mean in any way shape or form to sound disrespectful but @Bluebirdgirl have/are you really in a relationship where your partner doesn't call you names at all? My DH calls me something hurtful everyday at least once and I've seen some people on here who seem to have a similar relationship to me in this way but most ladies on here seem to have this so perfect, partners never hurt their feeling or say anything bad to them kind of thing happening like in the movies and I feel like I'm not sure what is real. My husband has even slapped my face multiple times before. I don't think I'm in an abusive relationship. I just think I'm in a relationship with a man who I occasionally **** off and he gets angry. The same as he makes me angry but I'd not hit him. (I have before and felt terrible, not that it actually hurt him he's too tall for me to punch in the face, lol)
    I suppose what I'm trying to say is, what is the "right" relationship?
    Do I think what you have described above is normal? No, not at all. It is not normal/healthy to have been slapped in the face multiple times and it is not normal/healthy for a husband to say something hurtful to their wife every single day. Do my husband and I argue? Of course we do, we're human. But does my husband regularly hurt my feelings, every day? No, definitely not. And he does not call me names.

    I have anxiety and depression and regularly imagine harming myself. I wouldn't, but I regularly 'fantasize' about it, especially when I'm upset. Is that normal? Not at all. Would my husband hold it against me and call me a 'crazy c**t?' NEVER!! I tell him when I am feeling this way and he comforts me because he knows that is what I need and what a supportive partner does.

    I'm sorry, but I think you both have a lot to work on in your relationship from your comments in the other thread and here. It is not healthy or normal and I think you should work on it before you add the stress of another baby to it. I am currently in the trenches of having a toddler and a baby and it is effing hard. I wouldn't be able to cope if my husband didn't help me out or support me emotionally.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CountryMumkin View Post
    Yes thoughts on this situation.
    Not drag whatever else I've said in other posts over and cling on to that.
    I don't want thoughts that validate mine I want genuine thoughts on the situation which some have given. He might feel this way or that way etc etc.
    But what you've said in the past does play into what you are asking now, it's still the same person and same relationship we are discussing. I'm sure it's hard to read these opinions on your relationship but past comments are all part of the puzzle. What do I think he's thinking or feeling? From what I know from the info you have provided, I do not think he is thinking about anybody other than himself and I do not think he could cope with or wants another child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    But what you've From what I know from the info you have provided, I do not think he is thinking about anybody other than himself and I do not think he could cope with or wants another child.
    I disagree. I think he's open to a new baby because he doesn't think it will change his life I anyway like it currently hasn't. Changing two nappies? I've fobbed more off onto my bestie. Baby crying? Just walk away and had it back to mum. If you have zero responsibilities it's pretty easy to parent!

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    OP - fast forward 25-30 years.....
    Your daughter calls you - her partner wants to play with their 11 month old child, but doesn't help otherwise. He also verbally abuses your beautiful daughter almost daily. He has hit her a few times too.

    What advice would you give her?
    Food for thought.

    OP - you are worth so much more. Please look after yourself, just as you will look after your child

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    I read some of OP other posts. 21 years old is very very young.
    As a young mum myself in unhappy relationships this makes me sad.

    I feel this girl is hasn't had enough life experience to understand this is wrong.

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    OP this is shocking. I know that giving relationship advice on forums is a bad idea because people only know what you tell them. Your husband could be the golden husband who you adore and love .. and he may very well have a million good traits worth admiring but if he has slapped you previously that is a very bad and concerning foundation.

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    @HollyGolightly81, I am happy for you that you have such a supportive partner that suits you.

    My husband also suffers anxiety and depression and PTSD and needs a lot of support also.

    @WiseEnough, I have to agree with you there to a point.
    @Waggers70, her father and I would never let that happen. The end. Regardless of anything.

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    This is really sad.
    Would you consider some counselling for yourself?
    Your partner is abusing you and by default your child whether you see it or not.
    It is never ok to hit anyone or call them names. It's not normal and you deserve better.

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