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    Default What do birthing women want to hear?

    Its very important that women feel supported and encouraged by their midwives/obs when in labour. As a midwife in training, its difficult to know what to say to a woman when she is in so much pain.

    Please share anything your midwife said to you that you found helpful and supportive (or what would you like your midwife to say)? And what things irritated you, or what should a midwife avoid saying to a birthing women?

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    Tell them they are doing so well, they are almost there. That you know it hurts but they can do it.

    Don't minimise. I think middies practicing a long time tend to sometimes lack patience and empathy bc they've seen so many births. Remember you may have birthed 20/50/100 babies but for this woman, it's her first/second. It's scary, painful and you lose all control. Don't tell them it isn't that bad. That they aren't handling the pain well.

    My biggest advice is what would *you* want if you were heavy into transition, bellowing like hippo crying you can't do it anymore? lol

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    I actually wanted someone to actually listen to me and not dismiss me.

    My 1st birth I asked for more pain relief options and got 'you have a long way to go and it's too early and I have HOURS to go so go have a shower' - I had my baby less than 3 hours later.

    I found my 2nd to be better - maybe I was more informed. But having the midwives listen and say things like 'do what is your body telling you' and just being encouraging helped so much.

    Can I also add that after birth is important too? When helping with BF/bottle feeding etc etc.

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