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    Default Is the word 'hate' ok?

    Just a general discussion topic - do you let your kids say 'hate'?

    Its no big deal to me but my friend punishes her kids if they say it.

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    I don't have kids (yet) but for me it would depend on the context in which the word was used.

    For example, if my child said they 'hate brussells sprouts' I'd reply with 'Yep, so do I honey!'

    But if they said they 'hated their sister' I'd be explaining that 'we don't speak that way to our family.'

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    As agreed, it would depend on the context of it being used.

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    I discourage their use of the word of it's about another person. It's more of a "don't say you hate Susie, say you hate when Susie teases you" type thing. I let my kids hate things, but I do try to also explain the severity of the word.

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    While they're little at our house its considered a swear word, DS 6, does not use it at all, if he does say it, he doesn't get punished, ill say that's such an ugly word, and he'll say "I really don't like." DD is 12, she'll say things like omg I hate maths, my response is always can you please use a different word.
    I don't know why growing up we had no rules about the word hate, but before I had my own kids, hearing other people's kids say I hate you to their parents really made me feel shocked/sad I don't know- just not right.
    I'm usually fairly tolerant with language, and I myself am a bit of a potty mouth, so I have no idea why, but I really have no tolerance for little kids using the word hate.

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    No in our house unless under extreme circumstances it is not ok. Hate has a very strong connotation and one that can be thrown around yet can be very hurtful. DS had a medical procedure done and said he hated it - that I let be because it was horrible. But we don't hate food, we dislike it. We don't hate people or weather or places or school, for me it's just not appropriate. They don't get punished, we talk about why the word really shouldn't be used and talk about times when maybe it is ok.

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    I discourage it, and would explain how hurtful it could be if it were directed at another person. No punishment though.

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    I dont punish my kids for using any word, but I try to help them find better ways of wording things. Eg - if they said they 'hate' a food, or the food is 'yuck', I say that it's a bit rude to the person who prepared the food for them, and they should just say 'no thankyou' or 'I dont really like that food' or something that's a bit nicer.

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    I don't think DS has said this before. But like others I would not punish. I would find other words/way to express his feelings.

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    Default Is the word 'hate' ok?

    We don't say hate we say I don't like, DS actually pulls me up on this more than I do on him! The best was my 4 year old nephew who said "I hate my sister" his mum said hey buddy that's not a nice thing to say so he said "I don't like my sister" and she said now that's better

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