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    Maybe it's just too soon to think of it.
    Close age gaps can be great but bigger ones work too.
    Maybe if your age and fertility allow you could even take a 4 or so year break and then have two more kids?

    It sounds like you are just not ready. If you had to have them all close together for some reason I would probably re think wanting more kids.

    But really having two little ones is really stressful at times so I think maybe just too soon. Put the idea away for 6 months and see what you feel then?
    Good luck

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    I was in this same situation... I just didn't think I'd cope with a third with the same age gap between 2 and 3, even though I knew I wanted more babies. I ended up having my 3rd 5.5yrs after my 2nd and it was great. The older kids were more self sufficient and at kindy/school, they helped to some extent and I could relax and enjoy the baby stage. I enjoyed my 3rd bub the most because I felt "experienced" but had time to just enjoy. Now my youngest is 5.5, and the others are 11 and 13. I can be a bit of a juggle with the youngest getting dragged to the older kids sport etc but he has coped just fine.
    I think in your situation with how you are currently feeling I'd shelve it for a bit and revisit the idea in a yr or so.

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    there is nothing wrong with waiting a while. that doesnt mean that you wont have more kids - just that you arent quite ready to face the baby stage again just yet.

    That newbord/baby/toddler stage is hard. whether you have a small age gap or a larger one, its still hard.


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    As others have said, it sounds like it's just too soon.

    However, maybe two is your number. People do say you don't regret the kids you have, but some people do. It sounds horrid but feelings are feelings, and regret is hard to face on any side.
    I think leaving it for 6-12 months is a good idea. If you still think it's too much, that may be your answer

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    As others have said, it sounds like it's just too soon.

    However, maybe two is your number. People do say you don't regret the kids you have, but some people do. It sounds horrid but feelings are feelings, and regret is hard to face on any side.
    I think leaving it for 6-12 months is a good idea. If you still think it's too much, that may be your answer

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    Agree. It's a tricky situation, not so much regret your child but regret the number yes.
    I have 6 kids. We were probably better off being done at 4. We thought we were definitely done at 5 then I had a surprise pregnancy that ended in miscarriage. It made me want another baby but before I had a chance to really think on it I got pregnant again.
    I don't regret my kids because my youngest is the sweetest girl. But it is harder having more than less in all the ways you would expect, on your health with the pregnancy, financially and the personalities all bouncing off each other.

    So it's a lot to consider. By the time the baby is 2 you will likely feel a lot more ready to make those choices.

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