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    Quote Originally Posted by Full House View Post
    I agree with that. I edited my post so your comment won't make sense to anyone...but I figure most people wouldn't show a photo of their kids at a party to 200+ people taken at a kids birthday party if it was printed out, so I don't really understand why there is a need to do that on social media where so many more things could happen.
    I guess it's just a different risk assessment for everyone. I think 99.99% of the time 'what will happen' is a few of your friends and family will see a photo of your kid. I guess the small risk that someone unsavory might look at a fully clothed photo of my kid is just not that big a deal to me. I'm more concerned about things like people 'checking in' to places - especially their own house and I'd flip if someone checked in at my house.

    I'd be weirded out if a photo of me or my family was used in a meme too, but I think there's a pretty low risk of that happening, low enough to not really be on my radar.

    I will have a look at whether the people who do share photos of my child have their privacy settings set to friends only though.

    I wonder whether people were this bothered about their kid being in the newspaper when that used to happen regularly?

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    I get photos of random kids popping up in my newsfeed all the time. It's photos that my friends have liked of friends of theirs,so the photos pop up in my feed.it weirds me out thinking that potentially hundreds of strangers (friends of friends) would be able to see photos of my kid in the same way.

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    For me it's also about my child's right to not have an online presence until they decided they want one. It's not for me to make that choice. Also, I don't want Facebook to know more about me than they already do! Their privacy controls and what you give them permission to do with your data (including photos) are pretty frightening.

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    Quote Originally Posted by WaitRose View Post
    I get photos of random kids popping up in my newsfeed all the time. It's photos that my friends have liked of friends of theirs,so the photos pop up in my feed.it weirds me out thinking that potentially hundreds of strangers (friends of friends) would be able to see photos of my kid in the same way.

    Then the people who posted those photos don't know how to set their privacy settings correctly.


    Quote Originally Posted by WaitRose View Post
    For me it's also about my child's right to not have an online presence until they decided they want one. It's not for me to make that choice. Also, I don't want Facebook to know more about me than they already do! Their privacy controls and what you give them permission to do with your data (including photos) are pretty frightening.
    Really? Good grief, that's totally bizarre to me. I couldn't imagine giving two hoots what my parents did with photos of me when I was 5 years old and whether the whole world had seen it. And I'm pretty sure if I'd told them I had the right for them not to show my photo around they would have laughed. Not having a go at your view, just that it seems odd in my world.
    I wouldn't post a photo online that I would care if the entire world saw it. I assume it can be seen by anyone and decide on appropriate content like that. What about school photos that go home to every parent? That can be shown to all their friends and family, all those strangers, of every parent of every child in the photo, of the child with their full name and where they go to school? Just musing on other things we accept because it's not 'social media'.

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    I haven't read all the posts, but when da was born, I posted 1 photo 3 days after birth to announce to all my work colleagues etc that hadn't seen him. Within hrs of posting I was told that someone I'm not friends with had seen it and told everyone he's ugly. So now hormonal tired new mother was extremely upset and made a no social media rule. My brother broke it when my son was 6 weeks old, we asked him nicely if he could take it down. He went into full blown crazy guy abusive mode ringing constantly, messaging very abusive messages and leaving some undesirable voice messages. I spoke to my mum hoping she could get him to stop abusing me. She wouldn't do anything because she wasn't allowing herself to be put in the middle.
    3 years later I still don't talk to him and feel unsupported by the rest of the family.
    Long story short, yes you have every right to ask people not to post, but be prepared for backlash if these family members are obsessed with social media. It can and does get nasty

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    Quote Originally Posted by HillDweller View Post
    Then the people who posted those photos don't know how to set their privacy settings correctly.




    Really? Good grief, that's totally bizarre to me. I couldn't imagine giving two hoots what my parents did with photos of me when I was 5 years old and whether the whole world had seen it. And I'm pretty sure if I'd told them I had the right for them not to show my photo around they would have laughed. Not having a go at your view, just that it seems odd in my world.
    I wouldn't post a photo online that I would care if the entire world saw it. I assume it can be seen by anyone and decide on appropriate content like that. What about school photos that go home to every parent? That can be shown to all their friends and family, all those strangers, of every parent of every child in the photo, of the child with their full name and where they go to school? Just musing on other things we accept because it's not 'social media'.
    For me, the online world is vastly different to the real world and it's about protecting my children's identities until they are adults and can decide for themselves. I don't have social media, but I don't mind if people put photos of me on social media if it's a group photo situation, but my SIL doesn't even want her name mentioned on social media, let alone have a photo. She has her reasons, and that's her right to decide that. It's a personal choice. My brother has posted some photos of my kids on social media with permission, but from when they were little. My kids now say no, so we respect that.
    Obviously we disagree on the whole photos on social media thing, but I do wonder if your stance will change once your DD gets older. It's definitely something I am more conscious of now my kids are older, and I don't allow their photos on school websites etc. If I had a baby now I would have a blanket 'no photos on social media' rule.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HillDweller View Post
    Then the people who posted those photos don't know how to set their privacy settings correctly.




    Really? Good grief, that's totally bizarre to me. I couldn't imagine giving two hoots what my parents did with photos of me when I was 5 years old and whether the whole world had seen it. And I'm pretty sure if I'd told them I had the right for them not to show my photo around they would have laughed. Not having a go at your view, just that it seems odd in my world.
    I wouldn't post a photo online that I would care if the entire world saw it. I assume it can be seen by anyone and decide on appropriate content like that. What about school photos that go home to every parent? That can be shown to all their friends and family, all those strangers, of every parent of every child in the photo, of the child with their full name and where they go to school? Just musing on other things we accept because it's not 'social media'.

    I think it's about recognising your child's rights in the situation. I was a very cluey, switched on 5 year old, and I hated people laughing at me. I had a photo taken when I was 3 of me kissing a boy (family friend) - my family told me to kiss the boy goodbye, which I did in a totally innocent 3 year old way, and they took a photo, put it in the photo album (pre-digital of course!) and then teased me and laughed about it everytime we looked in the photo album for years afterwards. Similarly there was a photo taken of me sitting with my knickers showing, and my family always laughed at me about it. At around age 5 I was very aware of these photos and how they upset me, and how disrespected I felt. I used to turn them around in the photo album so they couldnt be seen (of course they would just get turned back around and laughed at again ) This was just family looking at my photos in an album - no social media at all (obviously) - I would have been very upset if I felt like the whole online world was laughing at me and looking at these photos that I hated. And any photo online CAN be shared with the world, regardless of privacy settings - all it takes is someone taking a screenshot & the photo is theirs to do as they wish with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HillDweller View Post
    I wouldn't post a photo online that I would care if the entire world saw it. I assume it can be seen by anyone and decide on appropriate content like that. What about school photos that go home to every parent? That can be shown to all their friends and family, all those strangers, of every parent of every child in the photo, of the child with their full name and where they go to school? Just musing on other things we accept because it's not 'social media'.
    But they don't photocopy (right click: save) them to keep forever. It's not the same. The internet is potentially everybody around the world, for the rest of the digital age. It's not the school parents or family friends. I think it's naive to publically post photos of your children. To me, that means facebook in any context - account hacking, or somebody leaving their account open, or having weird friends makes it public. I know a woman who used to blog her adorable two year old's happenings, including her outdoors in summer dressed as young kids do. She was horrified to see "child pron" come up in the google traffic database thing (as in people would search that and her blog would come up).

    Ok, so sharing fully dressed pics of your kids among family and friends seems different but who knows how technology will change. I don't allow recognisable facial images of my kids online because that feels safest to me for the long term.

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    Personally I think social media is weird and usually a distorted view of life.
    I had it for years but have been off all of it now for nearly 4 years.
    This forum is as social as I am online.

    So yeh I prefer to keep my family off of it but I don't police it strictly. Maybe I should have a chat with my husband who still has Facebook to see if he posts photos of our kids. I don't think he does and my mother always asks.
    Things are supposed to be safe but really we don't know. We just accept what we are told.
    I think it's possible that our kids could find their own pics later in life and wonder why they are on the internet lol

    As a pp said too, I was a self conscious kid and wouldn't have liked photos of me out for all to see. Actually I still like to make sure I'm happy with a pic now before I start sharing it around haha.


 

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