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    We haven't taken him to a GP yet as life has gotten in the way, but some recent disturbing behaviours are making this feel more urgent than ever. And today his teacher had a chat to me about him and described his behaviour as being pretty much identical to the stuff he does at home, including shouting out in class, being silly and thinking it's funny when everyone else is paying attention, not listening and ignoring teacher when she calls his name, wondering off to the toilet without telling anyone, and worst of all, hitting other children randomly for no reason.
    A couple of nights ago he flung his 3yr old brother across the bedroom, into his bed frame, and his brother's lip got cut and started bleeding. This was the last thing in a series of disturbing and sometimes violent behaviours, and i just feel sick in my stomach that this is my son's "normal"..

    I've been corresponding with his speech therapist this week (they finished their sessions late last year, but she was so good at helping us to manage his behaviour), and waiting for her to recommend some good therapists for him. Once I have some recommendations I'll take ds to the GP to get a referral.

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    Quote Originally Posted by witherwings View Post
    I'll start with GP referral to a paed. We already have a paed for our baby, should we use the same one or try to find one that specialises in behavioural issues?
    You can either see a paed or a child psychiatrist (that is what my DH does). Either can diagnose but there are more paeds around so that is the more common path.

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    Oh dear being violent is not good, please put your life on hold and get him assessed. By assessment comes diagnosis and help. Even if it's just behavioural you can at least start working on something. If it's something more then you can work from that too.

    That's awful for you and the younger son. Please get him assessed asap. The violence will only escalate, especially since there may have been insufficient consequences. But it also might be something more at play.

    I hope you find help soon especially with baby 3 coming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MysticFalls View Post
    Oh dear being violent is not good, please put your life on hold and get him assessed. By assessment comes diagnosis and help. Even if it's just behavioural you can at least start working on something. If it's something more then you can work from that too.

    That's awful for you and the younger son. Please get him assessed asap. The violence will only escalate, especially since there may have been insufficient consequences. But it also might be something more at play.

    I hope you find help soon especially with baby 3 coming.
    Thank you for your reply and your suggestions. We have started the ball rolling and there's been a lot of progress so far.

    I just wanted to mention about the incident the other night, reading back on my previous post makes it sound really violent, it wasn't at all intended to be violent. Both boys were with me in the bedroom and we had just finished reading bed time stories. They got up and started walking to their beds (they share a bedroom) and out of nowhere. DS1 grabbed DS2s arm and flung him sideways. I'm 100% sure that he thought it would be funny or maybe he was trying to be an *******, but he wasn't tying to hurt his brother. When he realised that his brother was hurt, he was horrified. He was pale white and started crying and saying sorry. The disturbing behaviour for me was how impulsive it was. Since speaking to professionals and doing some reading, what DS1 did was a classic example of ADD or ADHD behaviour.

    This week has been productive. We have been in touch with DS1s speech therapist and she gave us some suggestions and referrals. She also told us about a free workshop at a nearby university that was being held that very night called "raising difficult children". I wasn't able to attend but DH went and he said it was extremely helpful. He also saw a number of parents there that he was acquainted with through preschool and around our community and they were all there for the same reason as DH, which was quite reassuring. The dr holding the workshop had written a book that helps parents and teachers understand the behaviour of these "difficult" children and provides strategies for how to cope with and manage the behaviours. I've started reading the first couple of chapters and it has really spoken to me. So much of it makes sense to me, I can really see my son in all of the examples. I think this is a really good step for DH and I in understanding and accepting our son's behaviour and temperament.

    In addition to this, we have contacted a counsellor that the ST recommended. She works with another therapist nearby, holding group art therapy sessions for children to help them with social skills. She also gives private therapy sessions and after speaking with her, we've booked in an initial meeting next week with DH and I, and then another meeting a week later with DS.

    We also made an appointment to meet with DS's school teacher this week. we will talk about DS's behaviour in school, explain to her about his background with speech therapy etc and about what we can do to manage his behaviour in class, including meeting with a school counsellor and possibly having a support teacher in his class, and whether he is eligible for this, and what he needs to do to be eligible (eg see a GP and get a referral for a diagnostic assessment).

    I also spoke to my baby's GP. He met DS the other week regarding an injury, and I asked him if he was able to assess him and get a referral to a child psychologist.

    I also asked DSs teacher to give me regular feedback on his behaviour so I can talk to him about it at home. I told DS that she will be doing this. Since he knew she was reporting back to me, he was on his best behaviour on Thursday, which makes me very hopeful. He even got a special merit award in assembly on Friday for trying very hard to be responsible in class.

    Thank you everyone for taking the time to respond and give your advice and anecdotes. I really appreciate it. I'll keep you all updated on how he goes.

    I hope if there are other parents reading this that were in my position before, thinking something wasn't quite right but having everyone around them say that it's "normal" and "he'll grow out of it", hopefully this thread will help you to take the same steps to get help.

    While I know people have the best intentions when they say that stuff, it isn't very helpful because from my experience, it's made me question my own judgement and instincts, and delayed getting my son help and training for myself and Dh.

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