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    I was talking to my parents today, much to my surprise they offered to pay for my son to go to private school, when I say private I don't mean like the local catholic school but a GPS school starting in kindy.
    I went to public schools as have all my brothers, when I asked them about that they said they always wanted to send us to private but could never afford it for all of us.

    I'm not sure why they want to make the offer for my son now since he won't go for ages yet, but I also wonder what happens if I have another two boys in life, it wouldn't really be fair for the oldest to go but not younger ones.

    I know a couple of guys that went to the school my parents want to see him at but I just don't get still the benefits of a school like that. (<-- maybe better constructed sentences?).

    Is there anyone here that went to a GPS private school if you did what benefits are there? Would you send your own child? And I don't just mean for high school but all the way from pre school.

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    I've been to private catholic schools so can't comment on the type you are talking about. But like you said, I'd be wary of them being able to uphold the same offer to future siblings, boy or girls. And what about if their circumstances change and finances become tight over the years? Will you and hubby be able to keep your child in that school and uphold the fees? That would be my biggest concern. What about your brothers and their children/future children? Will they be doing the same for them? I come from a family where my grandparents favoured my two older brothers from my mum's first marriage and it's not a nice feeling for any of the kids involved.

    I'd prefer any funds they want to contribute be out towards extra curricular activities or even a trust fund.

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    We all went to a private school from kindy to year 12, my DH didn't but we both wanted to send our DS to one for a variety of reasons but it depends on a lot of factors, can you afford it ( and yes it's great your parents will pay but do you have a back up plan just in case they can't afford it for the next 13 years plus yes if you have other kids can they pay for them as well or can you afford it?)

    Do you have good public schools nearby that can offer the same kinds of things? What is important to you in your child's school? What does this school offer that the others don't?
    You need to work all that our first but yes even though it's a few years away the waitlist on a GPS or CAS schools is huge ( we put DS down when he was born and we were lucky as my brother went there!)

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    I went to both public and private schools and much preferred the private. Ds also goes to a private school.
    If I was in your situation I would be concerned about what would happen to any future children or if your parents couldn't afford it anymore. For us it actually costs less then what we were paying for daycare!
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    If its a GPS then some need names down from birth (;no exaggeration) so maybe fill out the forms now and pay the $100 to get on the wait list. As for the actual question, i would only agree to it if you could afford all future kids too. Or i would consider public catchment areas with maybe private for highschool. We were going to go GPS but decided against it and moved to catchment area of our desired schools. Good luck with your decision!

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    I went to one and DD went has attended one since pre-prep. I absolutely adore her school, she has amazing classrooms and facilities, fantastic opportunities to try various sports and instruments both during school hours and after school activities, small class sizes, great teachers, and because we are paying fees it allows us a say in how the school is run. The traditions associated with the old schools is also something very important to me. I am sure many of these things could also be found in good public schools (I went to one for primary and it was a good school with many facilities but it was HUGE). We are very happy with our decision to send DD to one. I would put his name down soon though because some schools fill up quickly especially if you aren't an old boy of the school yourself.

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    As what @littleriv has said. Maybe go public for primary and hold out for private for highschool. But you do need to get names down from birth in some areas not sure what it's like on the coast for you but friends of mine just did Miami high state school and they turned out fine

    It also comes down how capable your ds will be with learning and structure.

    It's a very generous offer your have made to you though but have a chat with them to see if they can afford it as it may be a lot more then what they are thinking.

    I know here in SA the private school my ds was originally going to go to is currently $15k a year not including uniforms and extra curricular activities so it would be 13 year investment costing $195k if it was paid upfront.

    You may meet another girl in a few years time and settle down and your other brother that is still with you may eventually meet someone when he is a lot older and have kids to. So the gift to your ds would have to given to any future grandkids aswell.

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    I've just noticed you're on the GC so I guess I know which school you're talking about, my DD goes to the sister school. If it's the one I'm thinking of I know heaps of families who kids go there from beginning of primary and absolutely love it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybeeno1 View Post
    As what @littleriv has said. Maybe go public for primary and hold out for private for highschool. But you do need to get names down from birth in some areas not sure what it's like on the coast for you but friends of mine just did Miami high state school and they turned out fine

    It also comes down how capable your ds will be with learning and structure.

    It's a very generous offer your have made to you though but have a chat with them to see if they can afford it as it may be a lot more then what they are thinking.

    I know here in SA the private school my ds was originally going to go to is currently $15k a year not including uniforms and extra curricular activities so it would be 13 year investment costing $195k if it was paid upfront.

    You may meet another girl in a few years time and settle down and your other brother that is still with you may eventually meet someone when he is a lot older and have kids to. So the gift to your ds would have to given to any future grandkids aswell.
    All of this.

    I asked my mum recently why she sent my brother and I to a co-ed school. She said she spoke to teachers and principals who said boys do better in co-ed and girls do better separated. Because the boys can often become chauvinist in an all boys school at secondary school level.

    Just another thing to think about too. Do you like the school he would go to? Do you think it's better than where you would send him?

    I personally can't justify the cost of private school, whilst in many cases the schools may be better funded and therefore have better facilities and more in demand teachers, I don't think it's worth that much extra money over a public school.

    Again do you see value in that or would you rather your parents put that money away for him to put towards perhaps tertiary education or a house deposit?

    I'm not sure if my kids will go to uni, but I dread to think of the cost in 13 and 15 years' time, Is rather save the money for that and if they don't go then give it to them as a house deposit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    All of this.

    I asked my mum recently why she sent my brother and I to a co-ed school. She said she spoke to teachers and principals who said boys do better in co-ed and girls do better separated. Because the boys can often become chauvinist in an all boys school at secondary school level.

    Just another thing to think about too. Do you like the school he would go to? Do you think it's better than where you would send him?

    I personally can't justify the cost of private school, whilst in many cases the schools may be better funded and therefore have better facilities and more in demand teachers, I don't think it's worth that much extra money over a public school.

    Again do you see value in that or would you rather your parents put that money away for him to put towards perhaps tertiary education or a house deposit?

    I'm not sure if my kids will go to uni, but I dread to think of the cost in 13 and 15 years' time, Is rather save the money for that and if they don't go then give it to them as a house deposit.
    This is also some good advice

    I should also add. My reason for not sending ds private was my marriage went south and so did the child support. $1200 a month to $31 a month. He's currently enrolled in a public school that costs me $330 a year and $100 a year for uniforms o get from Kmart/target. He is also doing fabulously well in his grade and is A grade student. My bff kids go private she spends around $55k a year. Her dd is a D student in high school and DS2/3 are not far behind with the same grades in PS so to me it doesn't matter what school your at it's how your kids apply themselves in their schooling

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