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    Default Mum refuses birthday party gift

    Not sure if anyone has posted about this yet but I thought it'd be interesting to discuss.

    https://www.the-pool.com/life/parent...thday-presents

    For the non clickers - a mum gave a book as a birthday present and the birthday boys mum gave it back straight away saying "he doesn't like books but anything else will do thanks".

    Thoughts? What would you do in that situation? Do you think it's a good or bad idea to give books as gifts?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mama Mirabelle View Post
    Not sure if anyone has posted about this yet but I thought it'd be interesting to discuss.

    https://www.the-pool.com/life/parent...thday-presents

    For the non clickers - a mum gave a book as a birthday present and the birthday boys mum gave it back straight away saying "he doesn't like books but anything else will do thanks".

    Thoughts? What would you do in that situation? Do you think it's a good or bad idea to give books as gifts?
    Just WOW! I can understand maybe it won't be the kids favourite thing in the world, but I am sure a day would come that he would read it.
    Personally I'd just take it back and give it to my own son.

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    Wow. That is incredibly rude of the mother to flat out refuse the gift and then imply the giver should buy something else! If her child really dislikes books that much then she could have graciously accepted the book and then given it to charity later.
    I often give books as gifts. I was raised in a house full of books. I never considered that giving a book could be thought of as a bad thing.

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    I personally think giving books is a lovely gift.
    If the mum did that to me I would take the book back get my child and leave the party. I dont like to be around rude people like that.
    That woman could have graciously accepted the book and regifted it or donated to charity.

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    What a rude, rude woman! Not accepting the gift? Expecting a replacement? Seriously?? Wowsers!

    My kids sometimes get things they won't like, and occasionally things that are far too young for them, but I've taught them to say thank you regardless. If someone is kind enough to get you a gift, you say thank you!

    Personally I think a book is an excellent present. I don't see how anything that expands knowledge could be a bad thing!

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    Gosh do manners even exist any more?
    Regardless of what the gift is you just graciously accept.
    Geez if I'd done that every time I got a gift myself or my kids didn't like I would alienate a lot of my friends and family!
    And what kid doesn't like to look at a book? All kids will at least give it a quick look.

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    Rude. And what message is that sending to her child?! What happened to "it's the thought that counts" mentality and being a grateful and gracious recipient?

    I usually give books as presents. How many toys does one child need? You can never have too many books (especially when your child insists on the same dang book over and over!). A huge percentage of children look back on reading books with their parents as something they enjoyed, and still enjoy as they get older - because it is quality time with their parents. Not to mention the huge benefits of reading and being read to. My DS already has a 1.8m bookshelf that is full of books - he's 2. I'd say more than half were gifts - from us, family members and friends. Some are hand me down books that friends have outgrown. Others are left over from when I was teaching, or are some that we have seen while out and about that DS was interested in.

    If I was the mother who had given the gift, I would have said "oh, I'm terribly sorry - we'll donate his gift to someone who will appreciate it," gathered up my child and left. If my DS received a gift that wasn't particularly to his preferences, I'd still encourage him to smile and say thank you to the giver. I'd never refuse a gift, or let my child refuse a gift.

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    That's rude as hell.

    I would be totally shocked if someone did that to me.

    I'd probably try to quietly leave with my child and the book. I wouldn't want to socialise with that mother again.

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    Default Mum refuses birthday party gift

    I honestly think this story is an urban myth - click bait. Generating lots of outrage and subsequent traffic to her blog.

    I don't think anyone is truely THAT rude.

    Suss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiny Dancer View Post
    Rude. And what message is that sending to her child?! What happened to "it's the thought that counts" mentality and being a grateful and gracious recipient?

    I usually give books as presents. How many toys does one child need? You can never have too many books (especially when your child insists on the same dang book over and over!). A huge percentage of children look back on reading books with their parents as something they enjoyed, and still enjoy as they get older - because it is quality time with their parents. Not to mention the huge benefits of reading and being read to. My DS already has a 1.8m bookshelf that is full of books - he's 2. I'd say more than half were gifts - from us, family members and friends. Some are hand me down books that friends have outgrown. Others are left over from when I was teaching, or are some that we have seen while out and about that DS was interested in.

    If I was the mother who had given the gift, I would have said "oh, I'm terribly sorry - we'll donate his gift to someone who will appreciate it," gathered up my child and left. If my DS received a gift that wasn't particularly to his preferences, I'd still encourage him to smile and say thank you to the giver. I'd never refuse a gift, or let my child refuse a gift.
    Agree wholeheartedly!!
    I love giving and receiving books. And I would absolutely prefer dd to receive a book as a gift instead of a toy!
    If someone did that to me I would do exactly as you have said - graciously thrown her contempt back at her and left in a hurry. I would not want to spend a minute longer with someone so awfully rude and ungrateful. What a disgusting attitude. This kind of stuff just reinforces my questioning of what society is coming to


 

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