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    Default Is 3 really out numbered

    We have two amazing kids ( 2 year gap). We wanted a large family but now we have the two we're not sure. I'm worried a 3rd will be a 3rd wheel and dramatically change dynamics. Any hints advise wisdom?

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    Not in my experience I found having the first child a breeze, & #2 was a huge adjustment. #3 was an absolute breeze again 😊 I had a 4 and 2 y.o when number 3 was born & they played together, the oldest could grab food out of the fridge for her or her sister while I was feeding the baby, & was responsible enough to walk nicely at the shops etc - so I didn't ever feel 'outnumbered'. I think a lot depends on the personality of the kids though - my #1 is very responsible and helpful. # 2 is impossibly difficult 😂 and has been since the day she was born. #3 is just easygoing.

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    We thought we had our sh!t together with two children. We thought we had it all figured out! They were 3 years apart and things were great. Then when DS was 8 months we fell pregnant with DS2. He's almost 4 now, DS1 started prep this year and it's finally becoming easier.

    3 children was a huge adjustment for us.

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    I felt the biggest adjustment for us was 0-1 child. 1-2 was still a shock in terms of workload, and 2-3 was the easiest adjustment, but crazytown. There is a 5yr age gap between 1&2 and a 2 year age gap between 2&3. Having an older one makes life a lot easier. Even though I wasnt sold on #1 or #2 or #3 to start with I cant imagine not having my 3 now.

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    I think it depends on a lot of factors... age gaps and personality etc. I had 2 years between 1 & 2 then almost 5 years between 2 & 3. He big Gap was because #2 was more challenging and it wasn't until she settled down and things got a bit easier that we felt ready for #3. Having the big gaps makes things easier as they are happy to entertain themselves which allows me to deal with the very clingy toddler I have at the moment. I don't find juggling the 3 difficult, but I do still find dealing with #2's attitude difficult lol

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    Do you ever feel #3 is left out?

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    I love having 3. I really feel number 3 completed us, and that feeling is priceless.

    I dont think my number 3 is left out, but he is only 14 months old. We have a larger gap between our older two as well so that probably helps. It will be interesting to see how the dynamics shift as they get older.

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    I have two girls 3.5 and 6.5 with #3 on the way due very soon. So all mine will be roughly 3 years apart. I guess it will depend on many factors, but so far I know both girls will fight over bub - they are very maternal.

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    Default Is 3 really out numbered

    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    Do you ever feel #3 is left out?
    I agree with another poster, it's about age gaps and the personality of the children as well. For us, #1 was left out a lot more. #2 and #3 are 17 months apart. Both are extremely high maintenance children. #2 has SPD and is prone to meltdowns. #3 has a very clingy personality, even at almost 4 he always just wants me.


 

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