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    Last year my partner and I were trying for a baby for about 7 months. My daughter and I moved in with him in the summer and he kicked us out end of November. Beginning of January we started to reconnect, trying to take things slow. Anyways, I just found out I'm pregnant. We did have unprotected sex, I did take the morning after pill the next morning. Not our smartest moment but it's happened and I'm being honest.

    I told him he screamed at me about how he doesn't want to talk about this not now not ever. How I'm evil, a c**t and how I'm a control freak. On Friday I was at his house as earlier agreed, and he came home from work and threw me out telling me to "f**k off out his life". I didn't argue I just left.

    Just to be clear I hadn't said I wanted to keep the baby just that I need time to think about the situation and process considering he didn't want to talk to me about it. He also said he wouldn't be able to attend an abortion.

    Anyways, he said he wants nothing to do with me or the pregnancy/baby and made me write him an email stating that I would never try to acquire any of his assets as a result of the child. He has now blocked me on everything.

    My question is WHAT THE HELL? I was engaged to this person at one point. Where is all of this hate coming from? Do any of you feel like he will contact me again?

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    Do I feel like he will contact you again? Maybe. Definitely if you keep the baby and claim child support. He sounds like a complete tosser so just the type to ring you and abuse you for asking him to contribute to the child he helped make.

    As an aside, an email saying you cant or wont do something isn't worth the cyberspace it's taking up. It's not actually up to him to decide what HIS child is entitled too.

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    Will he contact you again? Maybe.
    Rather than trying to decipher his behaviour, maybe instead work out what you want to do. Regardless of whether you hear from him again.
    Although I'd be erring on the side of doing this alone, having the baby or not.
    When someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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    Oh believe me I'm not asking is he coming back to make this right. I just would like to be able to enjoy this without the stress and fear of him walking into my life and turning it upside down and then running away again. It's not fair on the baby, my existing child or me.

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    Zelda - are you sure of this with regards to child support. I did think that was the case. He seems to think that having a baby is a payday. I work and provide for my current daughter on my own and she has a wonderful life. I just cannot believe his attitude! Im still so in shock by the whole situation.

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    Awful! So sorry but good that you were able to walk away from that.
    As far as I understand but they change stuff all the time so not sure, if you don't claim child support you won't get certain payments from centrelink.
    If I were you and I had to claim because of financial reasons you can go through the csa. I think child support is about 17-18% of his earnings? It's been a while since I bothered looking at my csa letters!
    If it were me I would make sure he could not contact me.
    He sounds like a despicable person. I would not want that type of person in any child's life myself. I would feel like tell the child what they need to know in the best light possible and when they are grown they can go and find him if they want to know him.
    He sounds like a type that will screw you over endlessly.
    Best of luck. I hope you have some family and friends to lean on right now.

    ETA just re read, are you in Australia? I just assumed. Then I see you said in the summer and then in November.

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    I'm in the Uk x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexis xxx View Post
    I'm in the Uk x
    You should probably ask this on mumsnet or netmums as this is an Australian site so people are unlikely to have info regarding UK policies.

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    I'm more on here for some support to be honest. Seeing if anyone had experience the same or had an opinion x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexis xxx View Post
    I'm more on here for some support to be honest. Seeing if anyone had experience the same or had an opinion x
    No problem, was just letting you know in case you weren't away it was mainly an Australian site.


 

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