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    I had a positive csec experience was offered skin to skin straight away but i felt ill from the spinal so i declined. I felt the hospital and theatre staff were amazing in trying to emulate as natural a birth as they could despite it being a csec. Dh held DS2 as i honestly just felt yuck but he also held DD first and DS1 pretty much straight after and they were vaginal deliveries. i didnt feel i missed out or our experiences and outcome were any less in any way

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    Quote Originally Posted by YeahYeahYeah View Post
    ETA, plus no cleaning & no wrapping. Literally straight onto my chest.

    It made the world of difference to how I felt after my birth.

    ETA, I felt exactly like you describe when I had to have a second CS, so did everything possible to make it as 'natural' as possible. Happy to share my birth plan.
    This is what I want. DS's birth was traumatic, and is part of the reason for the section (the other part being I can't go through another fractured coccyx and the measures I need in place to give me the best chance can't be done for a vaginal delivery at this hospital). I have no other options for hospitals, and I am going public, but, I'm thinking if I can find research to support it, then surely they can bend the rules. I would love to chat via PM if that's ok. I'd like to know how you convinced them and love to see your birth plan!

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    Just on a side note and I dont mean to sound harsh or upset you as I respect how you would prefer to give birth.
    But as someone that has had 2 cesars and has mourned the loss of not having a v.aginal birth. Be proud of cesar. It doesnt make you any less of a mum/woman. you are a champion for creating and carrying a beautiful baby for 9 months.
    I beat myself up for years after my first cesar thinking i was a failure of a woman. So definitely cry now and let those emotions go but once bub is here dont worry about how they arrived but be proud of what you and your dh created.
    You don't sound harsh at all. And I am so sorry you felt so badly about your section for so long! I would absolutely prefer a vaginal birth - but only if they can help me do what I can to avoid my coccyx refracturing - which they can't. I'm struggling with it more because I have a fairly strong needle/blood phobia, because I will have to be away from DS overnight for the first time ever and my hospital stay will be longer, and because I'm worried about the recovery period with a toddler and no support network up here, and DH has to go back to work after 2 weeks.

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    Not here either unfortunately, but DH did.
    As soon as she was born, I was shown her in the air over me and she promptly peed all over me was taken to the cart, then brought back covered in the hospital blanket and then I could have a photo with her but sadly no skin to skin contact.

    That said though, whilst I was in recovery DH had skin to skin contact with her the whole time which was lovely and comforting for me, but I'm not going to lie, it wasn't me, so it did sadden me greatly.

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    All the best with your birth @Tiny Dancer.

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    I'll get in touch @Tinydancer as I'm pretty passionate about ppl having an empowered birth.

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    First c section they put D21 against my cheek for a minute then needed to take him to check him (he was 36 weeks). I didn't get much skin to skin as they had to stabilise my blood pressure but I had him on my chest after about an hour or so, when I was back in my room. My son is very strongly bonded to me, he BF till 2.5 and we are very attached.

    DS2 I did have skin on skin in the theatre and I had him with me in recovery and he lay on my chest when we went back to our room.

    C sections arent always the "best" way to bring baby into the world but for some of us, we need to have one. I still had beautiful births, both my babies were successful at breastfeeding and I don't feel as though we missed out on anything, if that helps. Generally, you're out of recovery and back in your room quite fast and can have baby with you then.

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    I've had 2 c-sections, both wonderful experiences... first I didn't get skin to skin, DS was wrapped & handed to me after he was 'checked'... when I had DD I knew what I wanted, I wanted to BF as soon as possible after birth, definitely within the hour... and I wanted skin to skin in theatre, both I got... they did their checks & then DD was put on my chest with a blanket over the top of her (it's very cold in theatre). They worry so much more about bubs when they are delivered via c-section & it is important you let them check bubs airways because they haven't been squished on the way out like a natural birth... so I would say, write your birth plan, take copies with you & make your wishes known, there really is no reason you shouldn't get skin to skin as soon after birth as possible if bubs is healthy & passed all his/her tests it is possible, and I got to BF in recovery so well within the hour I had about 10 copies of my plan so everyone was well aware of my wishes! Good luck.

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    I didn't either. DS was taken for obs then a couple of minutes later he was given to me all wrapped in a blanket. Shortly afterwards he was taken away with my husband and I was taken to recovery and we were all together again in the room in about an hour?
    I am having another c-section in April and I'm going to ask if baby and my DH can come with me to recovery. I'm not if they allow that but I'll be asking for it regardless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPopsicle View Post
    I had a positive csec experience was offered skin to skin straight away but i felt ill from the spinal so i declined. I felt the hospital and theatre staff were amazing in trying to emulate as natural a birth as they could despite it being a csec. Dh held DS2 as i honestly just felt yuck but he also held DD first and DS1 pretty much straight after and they were vaginal deliveries. i didnt feel i missed out or our experiences and outcome were any less in any way
    With my 2nd EMCS I also felt funny (shaking arms, bit of nausea despite anti nausea drugs) and wasn't confident holding DS in theatre. Like PPs have mentioned, it is very cold in theatre, so extra provisions would need to be made for immediate STS when bub is still wet.

    Whilst I didn't get the VBAC I had hoped for, I did find my 2nd birth very healing. It was 5.5 years after my first and I didn't realise how much trauma and disappointment I was still holding onto from my first birth until I was able to let go of it via my 2nd.

    I think the biggest factor for me was that I was given options and choices. If I could not have something they always explained why. In your shoes, I would use this time to work through the idea that you really are CHOOSING the best birth for you, you are in control here!

    Meet with a midwife beforehand and go through your hopes and discuss hospital policy and procedure. Then you can have a plan B in place - what would you prefer if you get the shakes and can't hold bub on the operating table? What would you like to happen if bub has fluid on the lungs and needs to go to PICU? Go through the possible scenarios so that when the time comes and things don't go to plan A, you still feel like you're the one making the decisions.

    For example, in my hospital bub could not stay for the whole operation as a midwife must be with bub and the midwife's job is essentially done with you after you have delivered, you then become the surgical team's responsibility and bub is the midwife's. So I knew to put DH on strict instructions to stay with bub. I could have done with him holding my hand during stitch up but having him stay with bub was more important. So that was my choice.

    Bub coming into recovery was also dependent on midwife availability. Thankfully it was possible both times, it seems like it usually is but there's always a chance there'll be a rush of births etc pulling them all away. I had to be able to wiggle my toes before being able to hold bub independently, but that was straight away both times. Then bub was STS and latched on within seconds with the middies help and with me all the time from then on.

    It sounds like you had a very traumatic birth and painful recovery last time. CS is not an easy option, but I have several friends IRL who chose CS after damaging VBs and are all very happy with the choice.

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    I had an emergency c section with my son in 2014. At that time the hospital policy was no skin to skin in the operating room. As soon as we got to the recovery room, my husband said I wanted skin to skin asap and the midwife immediately got him on me. We had no issues bonding at all and successfully breastfed until 21 months.

    This time around, both hospitals I am considering allow skin to skin in theatre, once the paed had checked that bub is ok.

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