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    I would give whatever you would normally spend on a gift - if it's $25, then give $25. They did ask for a 'small' contribution, so don't feel obliged to stretch yourself.

    I also think it's a bit unsavoury to ask for a bank transfer in lieu of a gift for a 1st birthday/christening. Not wanting your guests to buy gifts is a fair request - asking for cash instead IS asking for a 'gift' though!

    What is your friend's cultural background?

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    Bani D, I'm assuming you're going to gift them money as per their request, so in that case I would give $25 the original amount you would have spent on the 'birthday' gift.

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    Agree it can be a cultural thing. If you go to an Irish catholic christening you are weird for bringing a gift, if you go to a European catholic christening you are weird if you don't bring a gift/money!
    Just give the amount you would have spend on a gift.

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    Rude, rude, rude!!! There's absolutely NO WAY I'd be giving cash for a baby's baptism, and especially when they've asked for it.
    I'd be buying a classic book and writing in it. I just can't believe how incredibly rude and presumptuous people are getting when it comes to 'asking' for specific gifts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Is the 'contribution' for the birthday? If the account is in the name of the child I would give what I would spend on a present (or what you can afford). If it is in the parents name I would give a card and not worry about the money.
    This.

    If the account is in the child's name I would probably deposit $50 (birthday and christening gift). If it's in the parents' name I would just do a card or card and classic book which is what I usually give for a christening. It's rude but I don't think worth making a big deal, just a card or card and gift if you're not comfortable giving money.


 

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