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    Default How much to give for a christening gift

    We have been invited to a Christening for our friends baby. Its a baptism at a church followed by a low key party at their place afterwards, to also celebrate the baby's first birthday. Usually I would take along a birthday present around the $25 mark, however the invitation has specified that in lieu of gifts they would prefer a 'small contribution' to their bank account. I have no idea what is an appropriate amount to give?? Any suggestions?

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    To their or their child's bank account?
    Honestly I would only give up to what you would normally spend on a gift. If you choose to give anything.
    I don't know much about christenings other than I usually give a card and a keepsake

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    I can handle & understand asking for money in lieu of a gift for a wedding but for a christening/birthday- really!?

    I guess they are indicating they dont want gifts so id be inclined to just give a card.

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    I would make an excuse not to go. The height of rudeness to demand a bank transfer for a christening!!! They shouldn't expect anything for a ... christening!!!! Alternatively rock up empty handed to teach them a lesson. If they query you just say "oh sorry I thought christenings were all about celebrating welcoming a child into gods arms - didn't think a gift was necessary."

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    Yeah I also think it's a bit against etiquette. Christening presents are meant to be something keepsakeish. I find asking for cash a bit wrong.

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    Geeze a cash grab for a christening?? I agree thats a bit much.

    In my circle, usually a card is sufficient and gifts are generally only from the godparents or maybe close family. It's not usually a celebration that requires a gift let alone contributing money.

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    Is the 'contribution' for the birthday? If the account is in the name of the child I would give what I would spend on a present (or what you can afford). If it is in the parents name I would give a card and not worry about the money.

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    Wow I've never done that for a first bday let alone a Christening. I would still give the child a present.

    DS1 has said from now on he would like cash for his bday to save for a car lol he will be 10 in may

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    Quote Originally Posted by babybeeno1 View Post
    Wow I've never done that for a first bday let alone a Christening. I would still give the child a present.

    DS1 has said from now on he would like cash for his bday to save for a car lol he will be 10 in may
    That's actually really clever and it's great he's thinking long term

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    Depends sometimes too on nationality. Being European christenings are a BIG deal and for someone we're not related too and doing something at home we will give at least $100-$150 cash plus a gift. If it's at a reception or restaurant even more.
    A lot of people these days use the christening to start off a bank account with any occasion money going into it.
    Times have changed. 20 years ago the in thing was always jewellery!

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